Not bdsm

Memoriesmade May 23, 2020 5:03 pm

Someone said it before, but it's not even really a sexual play anymore, that dude is just trying to hurt Chanwoo because his feelings are hurt. For real, I feel so uncomfortable with Chanwoo reactions, like- he just keeps staying in situations that he doesn't want to be in. Get ouuuut. Why would you even
Bro
This manga is going in a direction I'm not sure I want to go in,
I'll stay to be sure, but. Smh

Responses
    Rice Daddy May 23, 2020 5:06 pm

    Tbh I’ve never thought too hard about it until I read this comment. The dom’s actions are turning more into emotional abuse more than sexual domination, and the sub needs to run away as fast as he possibly can. The toxicity in their relationship has developed to a point it’s CLEARLY abusive. I don’t know if his character’s worth the reception arc anymore...

    Heauxx May 23, 2020 5:10 pm

    I think he stays around abusive relationships because he wants to feel any bit of secure I guess. It’s hard being with abusive people because no matter how bad you wanna leave you’ll prevent yourself from doing so. People don’t leave because they feel as though they deserve nothing but pain. :(

    Memoriesmade May 23, 2020 5:22 pm
    Tbh I’ve never thought too hard about it until I read this comment. The dom’s actions are turning more into emotional abuse more than sexual domination, and the sub needs to run away as fast as he possibly ... Rice Daddy

    MD's actions remind me of this quote from Little Women, when Amy said "I really did want to hurt you."
    (After she burns the book her sister was writing)
    It's so raw, and so truth for people, when we're cornered and we dont know what to do, we lash out and do stupid things-
    It's not okay, but I feel like, if there's a redemption arch I COULD forgive Md, but it also depends on how the author goes about it

    xielian_inlove May 23, 2020 5:36 pm

    the sad thing is that Chanwoo wouldn't know when it's time to run away given his past relationships. it seems like he endures it both physically and emotionally until he can't anymore

    Rice Daddy May 23, 2020 5:37 pm
    MD's actions remind me of this quote from Little Women, when Amy said "I really did want to hurt you." (After she burns the book her sister was writing)It's so raw, and so truth for people, when we're cornered ... Memoriesmade

    I literally just wrote a whole comment, inspired by this post, on redemption arcs in this webtoon. Legit just posted it, just now. It’s this big ol’ rant, but to sum it up—redemption arcs for abusive tops that don’t do anything to really deserve the bottom’s forgiveness? Gross. Over it. Seeing the bottom forgive them anyway? Nasty. Over it.

    Redemption arcs are a delicate art, and honestly? This author butchered it.