Long ass post to defend a bad Dom. Okay, here's the thing. Why didn't MD tell Chanwoo that he didn't wanna continue their relationship? Because he's a bitter jackass. That's it. And it didn't take me more than a paragraph.
Btw, you have no clue about BDSM.
You did gods work
If MD no longer has interest in Chanwoo, he could have told him immediately instead of continuing their plays. It’s so obvious MD is using the ex-sub to punish/make Chanwoo realize some stuff. MD is actually taking advantage of this situation.
Chanwoo respectfully rejected MD. It was MD who can’t let go and ended up mixing his personal feelings with their plays. Also, their relationship is purely business so even if Chanwoo rejected MD, that doesn’t mean their bdsm plays should stop (unless MD wanted to stop but as i have said, he didnt say anything).
Hats off to ya
Even my 7 descendants won't be able to type this.
And I too think MD is doing a gr8 job. U have to be sly if u want to get a muddle headed person.
Your entire argument fell apart the moment you said bullet point 3 :) because MD is being petty. He knows what he is doing. He wants to hurt Chanwoo for rejecting him. MD hasnt moved on and isnt trying to move on, he is just trying to punish Chanwoo. And that would be all great and good except he is letting personal feelings get in the way of a dynamic that is strictly sexual and business. But go ahead and keep defending this type of behavior I guess.
Ah no, the "hurting part" is during the play but MDs slap is definitely not for that. Youve obviously never been in a proper BDSM relationship if you describe it anything "hurting".
4 and 5 all the way sis.
thanks for expressing this in such an eloquent way.
I do think MD is being bitter, however I feel like Chanwoo is being cocky. Because he just assumed that MD would be okay with his actions as a fwb and a BDSM partner. So Chanwoo needs to allow reality to hit him with this. This is a great learning experience. You all are calling MD petty, bitter, and toxic because he slapped Chanwoo and such, but if Chanwoo doesn't want to do it, then he can leave and has to respect that MD ideal type for a sub and fwb partner can change when he pleases. So you all need to stop trying to make all of Chanwoo actions, okay, because you know nothing about bdsm neither. Because they do have a safe word and at any given time chanwoo can use it. Chanwoo should've respect that MD was still hurt from rejection and shouldn't have rushed to meet with him so soon again. He's getting what he deserves. A rude awakening.
do u really think MD is looking for a new sub? He's obviously using that guy to pressure/punish chanwoo and not because he wanted him to replace chanwoo as his sub. Also, why are you blaming Chanwoo for wanting to meet up with MD after he rejected him? I mean he wanted to meet up BECAUSE HE WAS BEING CONSIDERATE OF HIS FEELINGS. Chanwoo could have easily dated the new guy and make it official without letting MD know since chanwoo is not obligated to tell MD everything. But he still decided to meet up with him so that he can clear things up between them. Chanwoo was clearly thinking about MD's feelings so I don't understand why people keep saying he was being insensitive and rude for meeting up with him.
No, honey, you clearly don't know anything about BDSM but I not gonna teach you because you ain't gonna understand anyway
He isn't being considerate of MD feelings. All he was worried about when contacting MD was how he wanted to date someone he barely knew and keep this bdsm relationship. If he care like you all preach he does, he would have waited a bit longer and met up alone with MD where they can talk about their situation, but their first time seeing each other after 2 weeks because of MD saying the safe word and being rejected, Chanwoo wanted their first meeting to be about him and his 101 relationship. Honestly, he should have just gotten into the relationship with the guy if he could, because MD deserves better. Besides again, Chanwoo can opt out anytime he wants to, it's just his pride and how cocky he is, is preventing him from doing so. Periodt.
I don't see what's wrong with chanwoo wanting to date someone while still keeping their bdsm relationship since from the start both chanwoo and MD agreed to have no string attached. I agree thought that Chanwoo should have met with MD alone but wasn't it the other guy (ex-sub) who insisted he come along to talk to MD and to contact him immediately? Besides, Chanwoo was actually debating whether he should date that new guy or not since he knows MD might not be happy about it. But new guy interrupts and says they can just ask permission from MD since he doesn't mind chanwoo keeping his sub dom relationship with MD
And what of you just told me, shows that Chanwoo thought of MD feelings, after he rejected him?? Who cares if the ex sub wanted to see MD and meet with him? WHO CARES IF HE WAS OKAY WITH THEIR BDSM RELATIONSHIP?! The point is that not once did he think that maybe this is too soon for him and MD to meet after what had happened and him rejecting him. Honestly I am content with Chanwoo ending their relationship and dating as many guys as he pleases. MD should find someone who's willing to date him, if that's what he is looking for. Now I'm over talking about their stupid actions and thinking process. Please shup up now.
Everybody in the cmt is saying how petty MD is but here's the thing:
1. This is BDSM, slapping and choking is a part of the play. If Chanwoo couldnt handle it, he could always say the safe word or refuse to do it. MD slaps Chanwoo during the play is pretty normal (fyi i dont support physical abuse, but this is a BDSM, both parties agree to it). MD did give Chanwoo a chance to back out, but he decides to stay, so i dont pity him in this aspect. He makes the choice he wants so that's that.
2. Chanwoo wants to keep romance and sex relationship separate is completely ok, so i have no problem with Chanwoo rejected MD. But since this relationship is purely business for Chanwoo, he shouldnt feel upset if MD changes his interest and wants to get a new sub. After all, sex friends can lose interest after a while, so cocky for Chanwoo to want MD to stay by himself always.
3. For those that say MD is being petty after being rejected, well he's actually isnt. MD has all his right to lose interest in Chanwoo and choose and new sub, bc after all, MD has been the one chasing after Chanwoo (and Chanwoo is the one who keeps chasing other fkers and get hurt), so MD might feel hurt and want to move on. This is not pettiness, this is pretty realistic. Would you want to keep chasing after someone, even though they rejected you? I hope you say no bc baby girl you deserve better. SO in this case, im on board with MD's action
4. Chanwoo has all the right to reject MD, and MD has to respect this; but in that case, Chanwoo has to respect MD's interest too. However, Chanwoo is being too selfish at this point. He wants to keep being sex friend with MD, but MD prob couldnt bc he knows his feeling will only grow stronger. Since MD didnt force Chanwoo to date him, then Chanwoo shouldnt feel upset if MD chooses someone else, bc after all, neither side should force the other to do smt they dont want to.
5. TBh at this point, i feel bad for MD more than Chanwoo. We all obv know Chanwoo has feeling for MD, but he isnt ready yet (which is totally fine bc he should not feel force to be in any relationship). However, poor MD is also being hurt at the same, i mean who wouldnt if you get rejected? Chanwoo should be more considerate of MD, even if he rejected MD, he should know that MD needs time and space to grow out of it. He should be more honest with himself, if he wont, then he should let MD go. he shouldnt really feel upset if MD chooses someone else. Even if Chanwoo has past trauma, he shouldnt make other (MD) to suffer too
6. i get Chanwoo might feel upset bc he's about to lose his sex friend relationship w MD, but he has to remember that in any type of relationship, if one party want to stop, then the relationship should STOP. in this case, MD no longer see Chanwoo as a sex friend, so he might no longer want to keep distance so close. CHANWOO HAS TO RESPECT THIS.