Dear Uncle Pan, I actually like you a lot, but what you are doing right now is just a fuck...

age difference is a very big problem.

the older i got the more i cared about the age gap actually, i'm 26 rn and i'd never date an 18 yo so imagine a 36 yo

Only if you make it a problem. People just need to learn how to compromise and understand that being old doesn't mean you're always right and being younger means you're always wrong. Better communication is the key.

it's not just the "age number" it also a lot of other things that come with the age, like the different place you are now compare to the place you were before 10 years. and yeas it is very different and sometimes too different. and of course different mind set and feelings that could never be explain to someone that 10 years younger then you. it can't be help, it just different gap.

I meant when they grow old together the age-gap will appear smaler with time. And if it doesn’t work, then it's just like that. Relationships start, relationships end. There are many reasons for that. Age difference is just another...

Apart from that, it always depends on the respective people. Some people are more mature at 18 than others at 60, and I have seen relationships grow with age differences. For example the parents of my best friend had a difference of about 20 years and were together until the end. She was just of age when they got together.

I think it's absurd to put something like that in a bunker. Apart from delinquency, love shouldn't have drawers.

Exactly.

like you said, it depends on the said person. and where they are in place in their life, you might think it not important but it is important.
some people can act more mature to their age, sure. but they still don't have much experience in life that will help them grow and get a better grasp of who they are.
in this story, sorry to say but the redhead is just not mature enough for this to work, he still needs to learn how to date someone and what is relationships and Pan still need to get over his wall that block him from open up. so it just didn't meant to be, sometimes it happens. and yeas age gap can be a big reason for it, there is nothing wrong with admitting that either.

For me this does not have its origin in age (in number), but in the nature of the persons themselves. And relationships are ALWAYS work. So the reason doesn't matter, if I may say so. People of the same age can have different life plans just as well and it would not work out accordingly. The reasons that it does not work in a relationship are the ideas and the life plans. I think they are simply the plans of the respective people and world views, and certainly also how you grew up. This also happens to people of the same age. So it is not inevitably the age that is to blame. It's different life plans (e.g. life experience (for me, it always has to do with the circumstances of life and not with age), world view, principles, career, marriage, children etc.) whether it fits. And such things should be clarified beforehand. I agree with that. Communication is also the problem of both of them. Also independent of age. Pan, the older one also behaves immature, although he should know better after his age ... And the boy? He can learn. Such a thing can also be seen as a chance to grow together. Because, if everything else fits ... as I said: communication is key.

I have seen the most different age differences and it was never the age per se the reason for the end of the relationship, but what I just mentioned. Views, plans etc. …

I disagree but well each and their own opinion.