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No, I'm with you OP. I sympathize that she has had a lot of trauma but what makes a MC a heroine is her ability to rise above it and not become abusive like those who were to her. Her treatment of Li Lei is emotional abuse. He doesn't know if he's coming or going and after all he's done for her saving her over and over and over and over and over.... (You get the picture). She is becoming more and more unlikable as a character. I've read the spoilers in the comments and don't like where this is going. I hate feeling like she is digging her own grave and has it coming because no one deserves abuse... but ..... not sure I can keep reading this.
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Emotionnal abuse ? It's not her fault if she doesn't like him. And it's not like she want to depend of him. On the contrary she want to be free.
He is the one who want to be with her (even if she doens't like him and he know it), and he still want to be with her... because h'es possessive.
He's helping her, but she didn't asked for it.
He's buying her things thaht she dosen't want to receive.
He's asking her a lot of questions but never listen to whant she say (in short : he heard what he want).
Honestly I was wondering for a while now... didn't she agree to be her girlfriend because she felt indebted to him ? And Li Lei did tell her that he would take anything from her by force but keep insisting, insisting and insisting until she gives in.
I don't see a guy victim of emotionnal abuse, but a guy who uses stratagem to get the toy he wanted so much but now complains that it's not the color he wanted (because, you know, it's a human being... )
I LOVE that manager who point his problem : you are with someone because you want to so if you're not satisfied leave her alone and go with someone else !
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Oh yeah that manager is awesome! Love her most! But your last comment applies to her too. Regardless of reason she agreed to be with him. But she's not putting forth anything tho she said she would try. If she doesn't want to be with him she should leave. Make a clean break while it can be amicable. What she is doing is stringing him along. She isn't clear one way or other. I have been in this kind of relationship. 9 months of hell that took years to get over and I still can't trust fully 15 years later. But I've never lost compassion for others. So no I don't feel too sorry for her. Ok not locked in cage or stabbed on stage obviously ...still.... I did get my shit together and left. Anyway if she isn't gonna try...she should let him go and be clear about it. And I want more manager wisdom! Whoop whoop. Can we have a manhwa about her?
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To me he is already toxic to her.
And, yes, her trauma explain a lot. That's the principle of a trauma. There are things you just CAN'T do. Li Lei isn't far from taking advantage of it. Each time she try to leave he does everthing to make her change her mind. And that public annoucement ? It's not romantic, it's a trap. She is already not very free in her head and Li Lei uses this to keep her.
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It seems you compare yourself to him but remeber one with : Li Lei ISN'T in love with her. This isn't love when you doesn't take in count want the other want (and even if she is a little lost, she is very clear about some things and he just dosen't care and want things to go HIS way).
He doesn't deserve her.
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(I'm doing like you triple posting ahah) And the way she treat him is very natural for me. Honestly it's makes sens to be pissed for want he do. There are even some moments when I think she should be angry, like when she's happy to be with him un public.
But it's her wounds... she never done this in her previous life so she's too happy to think that she isn't experience it with the right person.
She is a mess. He is impatient and selfish. With him, she's like a wounded kitten entrusted to a child
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Yeah.... Actually i compare to her which is why I can't accept her behaviour. Like how ex smokers are the worst towards smokers.... Also seems to me she also wants it all on her terms her way. The more we discuss the more they seem to exhibit similar traits. They are all so me me me. Needy needy needy. But you are right... Also he is alpha mafia dude... used to using violence to get his way. I see him trying to reign himself but he's gonna snap. .. but she knows that about him too.... how they met with his wild cat and saving her in that arranged marriage breaking everyone's fingers.. is she just courting danger here? She doesn't seem to be wise hasn't learned not to piss off a violent man. Didn't she learn.. And if she's trying to hide what is she even doing pursuing the same very public career. Argh she is just so stupid to me. Leave the country and open a tikki bar on a beach in Hawaii. Nice and peaceful. I'll take a pina colada and beach umbrella please.......oh do we have an order for a "sex on the beach"
I have obviously been in CoVID isolation too long..... sigh
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As well as he know she has a trauma.
And what's the "hasn't learned not to piss off a violent man" ? If you begin to be afraid of your boyfriend it's the end.
And, I repeat, she has a trauma. Victim of trauma often repeat the same situations. It's psychologic.
He doesn't seems to be stable either but, hey, he hasn't being raped and tortured. And he ins't more stable than she is. It's even worst, because he doesn't see his own problem (instead of her, who is a little aware of her problems).
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its called trauma. Remember, she's a abuse victim. Many victims of abuse tend to make excuses and run back to their abuser. By pushing her down, and comforting her while she was at her lowest, pei zhizhang had manipulated her. please take that into consideration. Trauma cant be cured overnight. Its not that shes a bad character, shes quite good if you remember she had trauma. If she were to get over it in a day, that wouldnt be trauma, and the main plot would be thrown away.
Oh my god I am so pissed at ye xingling like what the hell is wrong with you woman?? Why cant you explain properly to li lei who loves you and cares for you and just go back in circles to pei Ziheng who abused you in the past and did again like what the fuck (︶︿︶)=凸 this manhwa is making so damn frustrated Σ(っ°Д °;)っ please author why are you like this? Why all the chinese manhwa have to be like this stupid plot and no character development of the fml (╬ ̄皿 ̄)凸 the best is cheating men must die where the fml us actually strong gawd help this manhwa (/TДT)/ also why cant I stop reading this stupid manhwa even though I hate it so much Σ(  ̄□ ̄||)