Personally I overcame the insecurity by realizing that any partner who would judge me for it wouldn't be worth my time. Especially if my partner wasn't shaving, cuz I hate that it's common for some men to be like "it's unhygienic" like...okay so even if that was true....then you're not being hygienic either... =_=; hygiene that only applies to women isn't hygiene, it's sexism. And that's my tea, haha
Among my otaku friend/fb friend. Usually they kinda open minded to topic18+. And yeah, mostly those men always said they don't like women whom don't shave /have a lot of hair. They define these kind of women are disgusting and not good to marry. A lot of men include outsider. I m a woman with hairy body ,once i saw comment from my friend said "women born with thick hair body are disgusting". Since that i became insecure with myself and I just choose to remain single. Because in my culture , we cannot have sex before marriage , so my future husband didn't know that i m hairy girl and I afraid he will choose to leave me.
my sister told me that she can't really shave her private part (yes, we share everything) because the pores (?) will start to bleed.
i can't really imagine it cause i'm a dude and i don't really shave.
she's so worry about it and feel insecure that one day her future partner will think it's so nasty for her not to shave.
i feel so sad for her.