I agree with this. In a lot of Yaoi the author treats the uke more like a woman than a man. Which can often toe the line of fetishization of gay men, and it weirds me out. Especially when the uke is hyper feminized and submissive. When you watch gay porn for example the men treat each other like men and the penis is more involved because they know that it brings a lot of pleasure as well as anal. Because for men, especially men just getting used to anal sex, anal isn’t some sort of magic thing that gives instant pleasure and will make them cum instantly. Authors sometimes treat it like that it feels the same as having vaginal sex when they’re very different. Usually those types of authors are straight women with no experience with male homosexual intercourse.
i like when the so called semes and ukes ._.
I really like it when semes give blowjobs...and actually look like they're enjoying giving them. I don't think I see semes give bjs that often(mostly fingering instead) and when they do it's not as sexy as when the uke does it because u can kinda tell its sorta just an act, they dont seem to actually like having a dick in their mouth(to be vulgar abt it). But semes like this look like they actually like it and to me that's really sexy. Similar bj scenes would be Cherry Blossoms in Winter(sounds messed up but I liked that the uke came on his face after kinda making him choke). Tbh alot of the time authors pretend like the ukes dick doesn't exist ╮(￣▽￣)╭