I keep seeing comments about their relationship being “unhealthy” or “headed for disaster.” I disagree. Instead, I think their relationship is actually the first “healthy” human interaction either of them has experienced.
I feel the author has done a great job portraying the reality of how difficult it will be for them as they learn to live “normal” lives. Communication, understanding, and trust are things that nearly all couples struggle with at some point. For them, these issues will all be amplified, therefore more challenging, since they are experiencing everything for the first time.
A true ‘happy ending’ would not be for them to ‘live happily ever after,’ because that only exists in childhood fairytales. Their happiness will come from making many mistakes- yet learning from those mistakes together, resulting in them growing as individuals and as a couple. They are bound to misunderstand each other, unintentionally hurt each other, and even lash out at one another. Still, I would not deem this to be an unhealthy relationship. Sure, their codependency and desire to please are not traits akin to ‘normal, healthy, mature relationships.’ Expecting that from them at this point (or possibly ever for that matter) would be rather far fetched.
I keep seeing comments about their relationship being “unhealthy” or “headed for disaster.” I disagree. Instead, I think their relationship is actually the first “healthy” human interaction either of them has experienced.
I feel the author has done a great job portraying the reality of how difficult it will be for them as they learn to live “normal” lives. Communication, understanding, and trust are things that nearly all couples struggle with at some point. For them, these issues will all be amplified, therefore more challenging, since they are experiencing everything for the first time.
A true ‘happy ending’ would not be for them to ‘live happily ever after,’ because that only exists in childhood fairytales. Their happiness will come from making many mistakes- yet learning from those mistakes together, resulting in them growing as individuals and as a couple. They are bound to misunderstand each other, unintentionally hurt each other, and even lash out at one another. Still, I would not deem this to be an unhealthy relationship. Sure, their codependency and desire to please are not traits akin to ‘normal, healthy, mature relationships.’ Expecting that from them at this point (or possibly ever for that matter) would be rather far fetched.
That’s just my take on it.