I'm not okay with the cheating, but I understand where the uke's coming from. Even though life is stable, he's not happy. He's not thriving at work. Seme with good intentions is always helping him, but uke can't feel any satisfaction since it isn't his victory. Then everyone at work jokes about how useful seme is compared to him even though they started at the company at the same time. And the way the uke just goes along and takes in the insults, he has no pride or self-worth left. Outside work, they're on different levels. Seme is like the adult naturally babying and chauffeuring him around, while uke is just being spoiled. Seme is unknowingly the enabler. They're not equals in work, life or their relationship. After a while, it just feels crappy. Uke has no self-worth cause seme unknowingly took it away from him from all areas of his life. Then comes in ex, and they just vibe better. Seme is great, but uke knows he's dragging him down. Uke amazes himself that he managed to land a good looking perfect guy and has nothing (other than being a hole) to offer in return. But with ex it's different, uke always worked hard to catch up with ex (joining the same club, finding the same music, etc.) Maybe with the ex, uke can finally find the motivation for self-improvement. Imo, uke needs to quit his toxic job. He needs to mature as a person, and he can't do that in his current environment with bf. They need to go on break and the uke needs to figure himself out.
I'm not okay with the cheating, but I understand where the uke's coming from. Even though life is stable, he's not happy. He's not thriving at work. Seme with good intentions is always helping him, but uke can't feel any satisfaction since it isn't his victory. Then everyone at work jokes about how useful seme is compared to him even though they started at the company at the same time. And the way the uke just goes along and takes in the insults, he has no pride or self-worth left.
Outside work, they're on different levels. Seme is like the adult naturally babying and chauffeuring him around, while uke is just being spoiled. Seme is unknowingly the enabler. They're not equals in work, life or their relationship. After a while, it just feels crappy. Uke has no self-worth cause seme unknowingly took it away from him from all areas of his life.
Then comes in ex, and they just vibe better. Seme is great, but uke knows he's dragging him down. Uke amazes himself that he managed to land a good looking perfect guy and has nothing (other than being a hole) to offer in return. But with ex it's different, uke always worked hard to catch up with ex (joining the same club, finding the same music, etc.) Maybe with the ex, uke can finally find the motivation for self-improvement. Imo, uke needs to quit his toxic job. He needs to mature as a person, and he can't do that in his current environment with bf. They need to go on break and the uke needs to figure himself out.