Yeah imo at first you're just trying things, but the more you read the more you develop your ability to critic
Series like At The End Of The Road or Super Lovers used to appear as very romantic ones a few years ago, now that I've read more I realize the seme were assholes, most of the time abusive, and that the uke were treated like smol hissing kittens whenever they tried to go against the seme's will
That and the very concept of always-seme and always-uke without having ever taken time to even ask "hey, do you want to dick or get dicked"... I used to accept it and now I can't bear reading that stuff, it's such a fucking turn-off :/
I also started off preferring the hard core stuff, its not boring to me now though but I seek it out less. Maybe because there's a lot of shoujo webtoon I've been reading that I wasn't as much of a hormonal human as I was. Still love those steamy scenes though but I like cute stuff and sweet scenes more nowadays.
A pretty normal thing. We become picky the more we've been reading (or watching) stuff. Years ago I loved reading short stories (one volume) where things were often rushed (encounter chap 1 - f* chap 2 xD). Now most of the time I don't even look at that kind of BL anymore (except when I want to chill and read something easy/ H stuff lol).
Well it's for the best. We have more diversity & developped characters/ relationships.
I remembered when I first read yaoi, a lot of them were about the seme raping or harassing the uke...
YES, this has become a more frequent thing for me whenever I read yaoi. I've become more nitpicky, my tastes have changed and I can point out almost any fault in a yaoi that I dislike.
Because of this, I get more hate lol... I've never considered my fellow yaoi readers to be people I'd never get along with, but now that I've opened my eyes my opinions on our community have changed. The more I interact with the people on this site, the more disappointed I get.
Like ffs some of them were praising a person who was having murderous, almost dangerous thoughts that could actually HARM a person in real life. They find manipulated bastards cute and adoring. Hypocrisy on this site is also real af.
And before I didn't really mind when people said they wouldn't care if they were raped by a handsome man, but now I realize how ignorant that sounds. Along with my picky tastes that I've developed, I've also become more nitpicky at the people.
I think this is just what happens when you stay around for too long. You start seeing the faults
Does anyone find that their taste in yaoi changes the more they read? At first I was okay with a lot of tropes but as I began reading more, I started disliking the ones I used to find enjoyable.