I just told her that the plan is cancelled, and she replied why. I haven’t reply. Should I be harsh and tell her the truth - that she’s a fake ass bitch. Or I just lie to her and tell the excuse we came up with. I’m unsure if I should pretend like nothing happened and just hang out with her less, because she act like nothing happened in front of me. Or if I should tell her straight that I don’t want to be friends anymore because I don’t any negative person or people who don’t care in my life. I wanna spend my effort and time on people who actually deserve it.
I think you should tell her the truth, it’s best to get toxic people out of our lives as fast as we can (ノ°ο°)ノ
You made the right choice... Base on your story, A is a very toxic person, it does not justify her actions just because she feels good talking sh*t about others behind their backs...
Toxic relationships are often the cause for more depressing thoughts.. Cutting her off is the right thing not just for your mental health and also for your other friend B.. you won't get any benefits being friends with A, putting up with her actions, means you're not being truthful to yourself. That won't help your recovery stage, rather, you'll become quite and lip-tight person since you can't be vocal of your feelings and ideas with her. Worst case, it might even cause you more mental health problems.. excluding her would be hard for you at first.. but it'll be okay later on.. I don't suggest confronting her about it... Knowing your mental state, it'll worsen your condition... Just avoid her.. if you do plan confronting her, just make sure B's with you since he's someone who knows your real condition.. you're in a very sensitive state
She's not beneficial to you. Sometimes cutting other people off even if they're important to you, is way more better than holding on to them. YOUR MENTAL HEALTH IS THE TOP PRIORITY. And she's not helping. Remember that. Be selfish for once and take care of yourself.
As the wise men said, "Better take rotten apple from the hoard, than let it lie to spoil the good ones there." Please feed your soul with positivity. Her selfishness and self-centeredness won't do you any good.
there is a difference between a friend and someone you hang out with, get along with
judging by this, she was more on nice person that happen to be near ( until you found out she was just acting nice while talking behind back
a real friend will come to your place the moment you write you need a shoulder to cry, call you, ask you how they can help or at least thats what you should look for in a friend
not someone so unsympathetic and hypocritical
Thank you so so so much for telling me this. I’ve decided to do that. I love all what you just said to me, and I’ll always remember that. Thank you very much.
Thank you, but I’ve decided to just tell a lie and avoid her after reading the rest of the comments Thank you!
I understand, thank you for replying
Yes, you are right and I agree. Thank you for replying!!
Wow so long
You're welcome dear(づ￣ ³￣)づ
Stay strong and take care!!
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I’m seeking an advice from all of you! I’m sorry it’s gonna be very long. So, it is about a friend of mine (let’s call her A). She....apparently I found out she is a “fake friend”. We’ve known each other way back in my previous university since 2015/16 (i don’t rmbr). We both transferred to America to study at the same university, for the same major too. All along, her personality is that she likes to gossip about people. I usually listened to her and we both get along. At first we are just good friends, but lately we’ve been very close because I introduced a friend (let call him B) of mine to her.
Friend A always seem to get along w me fine. I personally don’t like to gossip or talk bad about other people especially if it’s my friend. I already knew and accepted her personality that likes to talk bad about people. She said it makes her feel good to talk bad about people and stereotyping others. I dislike that a lot as I’m a very sensitive person. I struggle with mental health myself and often cries a lot or get into depression. I also get anxious sometimes. Currently, I’m kinda in “recovery”, where I’m getting better each day. Only sometimes, I have “episodes” of mental breakdown due to piled up feelings. My problem is that I care about others too much, more than myself.
Friend A has always expressed how she loves to hang out with friend B because friend B is a very funny person and has a unique personality. However, you can actually see that friend B are closer to me as we live and work in the same building, while friend A work and live at a different building. Friend B is closer to me because as I mentioned, I was the one introduced B to A. Until today, I believe A started to be close with me all because she wants to hang out with B. But, I honestly don’t mind, as I know I’m just an ordinary girl.
Few days ago, B asked me if I have anything to say about A. I was curious, however I insisted and told B that I will not talk about A behind her back, as we are friends. B then decided to tell me that A talked bad about me to B. Prior to this, I had an episode of mental break down 1 or 2 weeks before. I texted in the group chat (3 of us), that I was not feeling well and I felt like crying. When A saw this, A told B “why is she behaving like that again? She’s just looking for attention!” and proceeded to make fun of my mental health. B told me this was not the first time A has done this. A has always made fun of my mental health to B and always mentioned I was only looking for attention and that I’m an attention whore.
When B told me this, B said he was uncomfortable with what A told him. B don’t take my mental health lightly as he understand it. Multiple times I tried to tell A about my mental health, however she never said or do anything to it, as in she does not care. I thought it was because it is in a situation where people don’t know what to do when I tell them about my mental health. And I totally understand and never did expect anything from her. However, it broke my heart when I knew that she made fun of me.
Our friendship consists of 3-4 years now. She has always act nicely in front of me, that’s why I never doubted her. One thing I can tell you all is that she can never be true to any friends she has. She is extremely popular in society - friends, colleagues, professors, etc. People always remember her, but not me. She is a hard working person and a smart person - 4.0 student. I’m just a 3.0 student. Right now, I don’t feel comfortable being friends with her and I want to tell her the truth - that she’s a fake ass bitch. 3 of us initially had a plan this weekend, however B and I want to I uninvite her. We’ve come out with an excuse to tell her the plan is “cancelled”, but actually we both are still going without her. However, 70% of me wants to tell her the truth that I don’t want to be her friend anymore. But, I’m scared. I’m not sure I’m mentally strong enough. I already broke down once after I knew about her talking bad about it. When she asked me ytd so if the plan still going on, I told her yes. My cousin told me, why should I feel bad not inviting her, when she doesn’t even feel bad talking bad about me. While I decide to come up with an excuse to uninvite her, A talked bad about me to B ONCE AGAIN this week..... sigh, I’m not sure what I should do. My feelings are all over the place this week.
Thank you for reading until here. I really appreciate you taking time to read this