Does anyone else get anxious when it come to love?

Ophelia October 31, 2019 5:02 am

I just turned 22 this month and I haven't had a significant other since 8th grade ╥﹏╥. I'm currently in university but I haven't met anyone interesting and even if I do get crushes and try to get to know them no one is interested in me. My cravings for love is growing and as much as I try to ignore it and try to focus on work and stuff it still looms over me. Plus I think my overbearing parents and romance comics I read don't help in the slightest. I guess I'm wondering if anyone else has similar feelings and how do u manage it?

Responses
    rosie October 31, 2019 5:22 am

    I'm nearly 20, & I've never been in a relationship. I've been in love with my best friend for 5 years, & I've only had 2 whole crushes in my life. My love life is pretty non-existent haha... I don't think I get crushes easily at all, it takes me a long time to fall in love & get to know a person. I'm kind of afraid no one will love me because I can't even love myself. I mean who would even remotely like me haha.. not a bright outlook on my love life.

    t8nt3d October 31, 2019 5:24 am

    Pretty sure everyone gets anxious. Have you tried dating apps? They do their job of helping you understand what your interests are by meeting people that you think you might be interested in, makes you less anxious, too, as time goes by.

    rosie October 31, 2019 5:26 am

    Also, I saw your other post about you liking your friend. Feel free to talk to me about it, as I am also in the same situation. I am seeking advice as well.

    Trash October 31, 2019 5:34 am

    Im 24, I never dated anyone. I never had this interest or even if I was bit curious about others relationships or stuffs I never came to think myself having a relationships ... Im not lesbian nor Im interest in any boy. Its just that I wonder how can people fall in love.... isnt it boring ? I can spent my life like this I am now... Im gonna graduate from university this next year.. Im still single ... also I never slept with anyone... woah I never even kissed anyone.. ah... I feel like a nun (fujoshi) .
    btw you can try dating me I dont care anymore boy girl doesn't matters... bring it on :v

    haesitae October 31, 2019 6:45 am

    Brooooo i have the same condition, the last relationship I had is when I was 11th grader. I am 22 too and graduated from uni. But i know why I didn't make a relationship till now cz I too realize myself isn't appealing enough now. I've gotten dark and close myself from others *late rebel i guess. Friendship is okay, but more than that... I just can't.

    But here myself regretting my changes becoming habits, I need someone to love too!!! I wanna be my old self but didn't have any opportunity anymore cz it's going to be work and work only after this urgh.

    At least you're still in the uni, go get yourself a love! I mean before you got yourself hooked on works. Open yourself to others, starting as a friend is ok i guess. Look for online dating apps or socmed friends will help i guess. I hope the best for your love life!! At least you should be happier than me (๑•ㅂ•)و✧

    Wolfe October 31, 2019 7:21 am

    Same though, haven't had a relationship since 7th grade if u even wanna call it that, currently 21! I mean I get sad about think I will be alone forever, but it help to just focus on myself it's hard though when everyone else is dating.

    Ophelia November 1, 2019 3:35 am
    Also, I saw your other post about you liking your friend. Feel free to talk to me about it, as I am also in the same situation. I am seeking advice as well. rosie

    lol how embarrassing. yeah i kinda solved that issue. it's kinda complicated. If you wanna talk id like that.

    Ophelia November 1, 2019 3:39 am
    Im 24, I never dated anyone. I never had this interest or even if I was bit curious about others relationships or stuffs I never came to think myself having a relationships ... Im not lesbian nor Im interest in... Trash

    ha ha thanks for the offer but im not much into internet dating. still friends would be ok for me ( ̄∇ ̄"). I kinda wish I was like that but i guess I crave that human interaction you know. I wouldn't call love boring too. I mean you get curious about someone and you try to learn about that person and you fall in love I guess. The hard part is getting someone curious about you.

    Ophelia November 1, 2019 3:40 am
    Brooooo i have the same condition, the last relationship I had is when I was 11th grader. I am 22 too and graduated from uni. But i know why I didn't make a relationship till now cz I too realize myself isn't a... haesitae

    thanks I'll be graduating soon too!

    Ophelia November 1, 2019 3:42 am
    I'm nearly 20, & I've never been in a relationship. I've been in love with my best friend for 5 years, & I've only had 2 whole crushes in my life. My love life is pretty non-existent haha... I don't thi... rosie

    No i feel that way about myself too sometimes. I guess the trick is looking at things about yourself and seeing your own strengths even if you don't think they are that great. You know how to juggle, great. You have a talent for sleeping till one in the afternoon even better. It really shouldn't be just things you can do but things you like to do you know. I hope that makes some sense.

    Ophelia November 1, 2019 3:44 am
    Pretty sure everyone gets anxious. Have you tried dating apps? They do their job of helping you understand what your interests are by meeting people that you think you might be interested in, makes you less anx... t8nt3d

    I feel like those are really just for people looking for sex and not something much more intimate but thanks for the advise.

    t8nt3d November 1, 2019 4:08 am
    I feel like those are really just for people looking for sex and not something much more intimate but thanks for the advise. Ophelia

    Not at all. I've met many interesting people through it that eventually became friends. It's a lifesaver especially for queer people like me.

    Trash November 1, 2019 6:20 am
    ha ha thanks for the offer but im not much into internet dating. still friends would be ok for me ( ̄∇ ̄"). I kinda wish I was like that but i guess I crave that human interaction you know. I wouldn't call ... Ophelia

    first confession of my life, friendzone ~ sniff sniff
    lol :v ... oka best of luck.... hope you will fine your love soon.