That's nice hearing that your situation actually got better! Hope you will be able to follow the path you want to walk on :D
I feel like i need to thank you for commenting here, as you have said some points that in a way expresses what I am feeling at this point as well. Thanks for sharing your experience! Wishing you a good life now and in the future :)
Thank you! Well in this case I hope your situation will turn out for the best then!
Yeah, finding out what I really wanted to do with my life and stopping caring so much about how I should make my parents happy and think more about how I should make myself happy really helped me (and it did for my siblings too)
But I'm also lucky to have very supportive parents despite it all (and my mom is a very open-minded person who cares about our happiness before all. My dad love us too, but he's a bit more... let's just say he has this ideal of life he expected from us, and while he accept we will never give him that, he's still a bit disappointed? But like I said, I personally stopped caring about that. )
I feel like are you telling my story, hehe.
I'm happy the things are good for you now, I needed theraphy but now I'm good too.
Parents, please listen to your childrens, the most important thing is their happiness.
I'm glad the uke had a breakdown now, at least he realized it's not healthy before it's too late and was able to speak it out with his mom (which I can't applaud enough? Also kuddos to the mom for actually acting like a mom and listening to her child)
Personally I can relate to the uke in some ways, but only some. My mom worked in the education system so she was pretty strict about school. I remember when I was in elementary school, every summer breaks when other kids were playing in the sun, she would make us (we're 3 siblings and all were "gifted" for studies) do exercices everyday from some books. I remember when I was small I actually liked to study too. Those exercices seemed easy to me, and since I was smart, by the end of elementary school, teachers would actually give me exercices from middle school. I felt so great, like I was soooo much better and I did good. And my mom was happy so, all the better.
But the thing is, because my parents were used to it, if I had an "average note" (like a B or something) I got so scared of my mom reaction, I would actually hide it, copy my parent's signature and shit like that. And every time when I had good result it would be the norm so ( I would also get so jealous of my friends who would get praised just for a B and sometimes receive money and stuff while I would get nothing for A???) Plus turn out when you're good at school, other kids in middle school love to bully you ha! (tho never had too much of an issue with that because I could kick their asses) In the end classes just became so boring. I didn't see the point. The older I grew, the more I realized there will always be people smarter than me. I thought I would never be enough.
Tbh in the end for me I was lucky in some way, because I figured I wanted to do art anyway, and my parents actually let me. From then on their expectations from me weren't the same (they're actually really proud I think, even if they always worry XDD) and my mom also regret a bit of the way she acted with us, specially because with my big bro and sis, she really pushed them in the "scientific path" because that was the "sure path" and let's just say both ended up quite catastrophic XD (they're good now don't worry, but their young years have been a real roller-coaster haha) Tbh I think none of us are really angry at her because we know she acted the way she did out of worry for us, and if we had actually talked about how we felt with her earlier, maybe things would have been different, but it did affect us with some long lasting effect. For me for example, I have this HUGE lack of self-confidence and the feeling I'll never be good enough still sticks, especially since the art field is quite competitive. My bro at some point just lost himself and went into huge depression. My sis, she's still searching herself, but at least she's happy (and my bro is too, now).
But some have it really worst, and I really find it sad. Please if you're a parent, really listen to your child and don't take anything for granted, especially when it comes to studies! Children need to be pushed yes, but not by putting their physical or mental health at risk, and they also need an assertive to keep going! Most of the time, a simple "you did great" or "congrats" is enough.