Dude, even the best need their rest, we’re all human ya know. And It sounds like you’re just afraid of going first because you know you aren’t as good as her...
She probably has her own reasons. Use your feelings right now to try and be better than her.
Stop complaining. If you are doing your best then you could've been already the 'best' in those 3 or 4 years you've been waisting.
People acknowledge only the result. Not the effort. If you want people to acknowledge you and your effort then you should show them your potential.
Stop comparing yourself to her. She has her own flaws and you have yours. This is why you're dragging in life rn. Your parents are right.
Don't be a sad ass whiny dunce.
You are overreacting about this. This rant is very unnecessary and you make it sound like this is the end of the world.
The way the girl reacted to when you told her why she was being "lazy", was valid. She let you go first and went to rest and suddenly she's being told she's "lazy"? What do you think she's feeling right now? And if you think it's karma, it's not.
Remember, we are all different. Someone can be naturally quicker or better at things. For example, you are good at swimming, but somebody else may struggle with that or take a long time picking it up. Or someone else might be a bit slow at swimming and the other isn't.
And being recognized by others isn't important. Recognizing *yourself* is what's necessary and if you aren't doing that, then you need to change. You can be the best at something and nobody knows. You are not a celebrity. You are a swimmer.
Try to put yourself in other people's shoes if you can. The girl, as you claim, is the "best", then she must be exerting a lot of energy and therefore needs more rest than you. Who knows, she might have had an injury or cramp. Or your coach, who examines everybody, can't have favourites. She must treat everyone equally. Even the poorest at swimming receive the same treatment.
Rather than taking this negatively, take it positively. Grow and become a better swimmer. 1). Don't compare yourself to the girl 2) Make this a goal 3) Remember, DO NOT become too engulfed in becoming a "better swimmer". Good swimmers need rest too, just like everyone else. Just because you're good at art doesn't mean you can draw for 2 weeks without sleep, food and water. Same with good swimmers. And you can be one too.
You said you are at your breaking point. this is a time where we can be judge our selves by looking at others. Your coach did say great job to you but you where not happy with that. Stop look at how far you have come and not at other people. Don't compare yourself to others,remember why you like the sport set your own goals and refocus. she could be having her own issues right now. you don;t know another person's life.
I myself was on the swim team and I don't understand your complaint.
She asked if you could go in from of her , she's tired and she'd be slower so it makes sense for you to go in front , she will still finish and do the set.
And how is she being lazy ? If you let someone tired go once front they will cause traffic for anyone behind.
Swim is a competitive sport. You don't don't get recognition for just being there. It's about who's the fastest. Unfortunately for you your coach is not going to praise you just for trying.
No offense but you sound extremely entitled. I was on a team with 40 ppl from freshman to seniors and none of them had such horrible attitude towards their swimming nor their teamamates. If you want a pat on the back for your efforts swim is not for you.
It's good to compete, but don't let jealousy take over yourself. Sure, you might consider her as your rival but don't go on judging others, even if you think you're right, since that will cast you away from what you should be really serious about rn.
It seems that you envy her
Well, people really only acknowledge our results, not our efforts. And it’s like this for everyone, even for the girl you are talking about. Just try to give your max to the sport you love and you will get your results , also don’t compare yourself with anyone. There will always be somebody better than you in something, even those who are “the best” are going to be surpassed on the future
Child. Learn to overcome those feelings, and then you will become a celestial being that transcends this realm.
When someone does something and they make it look easy, it's because they put a lot of time, effort, and sweat and dedication into it. She might be practicing outside of the hours you guys train together. Also, body mass, height, body proportions and weight counts a lot in bouncy and speed in the water.
Just focus on what you can do. You might be able to do things she can't. That should be what you focus on. What is it that only you can do? What's your specialty?
No, you don’t understand we were swimming 3x100 fly and in the middle of that, she stopped and said to me “you go in front of me, I don’t feel like doing this anymore. I’m
Going to take a break.” And she hopped out. Everybody else were still doing the set. And I’m not jealous of her, everyone thinks she’s annoying. I just snapped that day.
I mean she was tired what did you expect her to do ? Just tread water the whole time ?
You sound like you're jealous and I doubt ppl even think that of her , sounds like you just made that up for the sake of making her look bad considering you hadn't mentioned it :/
You have like zero sportsmanship
So you’re saying that she deserves to rest and we all don’t?
She was probably TIRED. Bud. Is there anything stopping you if you're tired to get out of the pool? Also, some people are just talented. That just means you have to work harder and better.
Is that all you got from what I said ?
Are you in middle school or something you're very childish :/
No one said you didn't deserve rest
If you were tired you could get out too, who's gonna stop you?
You're complaints are all over the place.
Like I said if you're going to be rude to a teammate and have bad sportsmans ship and want to be recognized for your "effort" than swim is NOT for you !!!
Also if you were on my team and had such a horrible attitude like that you would be kicked out the team
Yes I am in middle school, thank you very much. And you go to swim practice to practice. The coach makes up the set that’s challenging to challenge you. What’s the point of the set if you just get out and rest?
The coach will stop me from getting out. She makes us do 10 push-ups if we need to go to the bathroom and expects us to stay the whole entire practice. But that swimmer is a special case. She gets in trouble once a month and messes around during practice. I am not making this up. I’m stating facts. If you don’t believe me ask my team. Unfortunately I can’t tell you where I live because you’re a stranger.
Welll you said she's fast already , she doesn't even need the practice :/
Look at the Olympic swimmers, they practice, don’t they? Even though they’re so fast already
Sorry, but I just have to get this out. Today, there’s this person who’s the best in my swim team. We were doing this really hard set and she told me to go in front of her. Her reason was that she was tired and she wanted to rest. That made me so mad because it’s not fair, I tried my best and yet I’m slower than her and yet she doesn’t want to improve herself even though she’s so fast. That made me really mad and I asked her why she was being so lazy and she told me to chill. I told my parents about this and they don’t seem to get it. They said why I should concern myself with her. This has been going on for 3 or 4 years. I’m at my breaking point. My coach doesn’t notice my efforts and just says great job after I told her that I did underwaters to the half of the pool. Thank you for making you read this and you probably didn’t understand it. Sorry, I’m in puberty right now and I guess this happens sometimes.