Just want to say...

Same as the (now Uke) had the right to reject a love confession the (now Seme) had the right to not stay as a friend and suffer but move away and try to get over it. If you love someone and stay there just to see them with others is the most damaging and sad thing you can do to your self. I know, I did it. No, it is wrong in so many levels. You have to keep a distance and learn to love yourself and someone new. Not just accepting a friend due to the desire that "someday maybe..." or just to see him more even as a friend. Because then you stay stuck. And a friend if you confess to him but he rejects you have no right to ask you to be his friend if that hurts you

I respect that you chose to keep your distance and lave and I would actually just do that...however what made me react is that he did it without saying anything...and that is cruel because it does not take the feelings of the other guy into account . I think he did deserve at least a goodbye...but it’s only my point of view.

I did it after a lot of time suffering. While I was rejected I had (by my choice of course) to listen to his relationships (mostly by commons friends or relatives). He was coming late night after his dates in my house in order to eat or play games or watching movies and even stay the night. I was there when he was sick, or him losing a relative. And in reality I was used because I was in love and I wanted to see him as much as possible even like this, and I had hoped that if I dressed better, change my hair, help him and stood by him he would acknowledge me. Saddly I was used. He knew my feelings and while their girlfriends were neglecting him (he was sick but the girlfriend he had at the time never came to see him because she "hated hospitals") he was coming to me. For the food, the fun, the sleep, the taking care, the support. We were compatible to everything but he wasn't attracted to me never. So I had to try to move on, and he was pissed about it. I mean it was a good thing for him that I was there always available. But I grew tired.

This was hard on you... of course you’d be tired ! and you were right to chose to move on... and I imagine that he even tried to make you think you’re the bad one... I’ve seen this happen betw my friend and his ex after she broke up , as she knew he still had feelings, she used him as her lackey... so he finally cut her off and it was so hard for him... you had courage in this case and you should be proud of this! My grand mother used to say that if someone hurts you so deep you just want to crawl and cry...keep you head high, smile like a princess and walk like a king ... (yes a king... cause she said that a queen was too often kept in the shadows so if you want to show your pride you have to be a king ) Take care of you!

Thank you for your kind words

were you never in love? when you are young, love is a little faster and more violent somehow, because it clashes with all your already existing fast emotions that plaque you regarding school, who am i questions, future etc. so if you experience this kind of vulnerability....telling your friend your feelings it is somethig like momentarily hitting rock bottom.....that is scary....and because the friend nicely rejected him, it ended for the uke....he had to seperate to become stable.....i can totally understand this.....people are different in the face of stress....there are the types that run when facing stress....others freeze and then there are the fighters.....some can combine many and choose depending on the situation or they learn patience and confidence over the years and are able to seperate stuff....like being in love with your colleauge but keepin all professional for years bla....ya know what i mean?

and....why you go without saying goodbye is because it would break you and sadly haha somewhere deep deep hidden he might have had hope....or the fear that when he faces him he would give in and stay....but he knows that he had the energy to do it so he did it to not loose momentum... :)

Late reply... in fact I do understand his reason but I might be too empathetic of the guy who did not deserves to be hurt and left like this... in my opinion people who act like this are protecting themselves...ok..but have also the goal to hurt the other party willingly because they have been hurt and it’s never a good thing...the fact that we do understand his pain and passion does not automatically mean that we agree Or that it justifies their actions .... Note that I am not a saint and I have hurt people who hurt me too by refusing to talk or see them (but never disappeared totally..too extreme) however in the end I always regretted it...and when I see reaction like that I always think that what comes next can only be regrets... buuut anyway the guy is young and I am not that young anymore and you’re right that might be the main point about this...when we’re young and experience all this turmoil for the first time the way we react is often radical...