Sounds like a similar situation that my brother has been in. Just know u will probably never win a fight against ur mom. Trust me my brother lost all of them.
I hate when moms do that
No... don’t do that. Wait for a while after you’re sure she’s calm, apologize, she’s the one that gave birth to you and raised you she had to deal with worse stuff from your younger self. Just remember that she loves you. And as far as I know moms always do that, so get used to it lol
That is true....that's also what I tell myself too ya know. "She only does that because she loves you." Well, truth be told I started doubting that when she said she hated me, or welp, wish I was gone. The second part she may not have directly said it but she did so indirectly. Recently it's been hard to get along with her...she jumps to conclusions and never lets me speak, labeling it "excuses." She piles nonsense over nonsense...I'd rather not list all the things she's done cause the list goes on...and these are things that happened recently haha. I want to give her a chance and I do want to get along with her but how many chances can I give before I give up?
Honestly, this has been something that has gone on since my childhood. You'd think I'd be used to it but when you own mom starts spouting lies I'm not gonna stand there and let her think that's the truth. I should just stay quite right? I should leave it alone, right? Forgive and forget right? But when you say enough lies....it'll start becoming the truth.
Hate it when parents do that (╯°Д °)╯╧╧. But dw everything will eventually calm down. Good luck!
Ok first sit down and collect yourself. you do not need to shut up or stay quiet unless you want to or you need to. Second, there are many ways to deal with this if you haven't tried them all them don't give up and try them. Try reading out the comments you have posted here and explain to her that what she is doing is hurting you. As for the her "hating" you part that is unreasonable she loves you but is probably frustrated with you now that absolutely does not give her the right to say stuff like this to you but likely she doesn't mean it. If you have a sibling or annoying family member you know how it feels to get frustrated and blurt out things that you don't mean. Try writing her a letter if you are too nervous to talk to her about it explain yourself and that what she says hurts you. Now I am in no way saying your mom's feelings I don't have enough information to tell you stuff like that. But I grew up In an extremely toxic household and was later put into foster care and to me, this sounds like nothing but miscommunication. She brings up the past because she wants you to improve and better yourself but if you talk to her and tell her that it makes you upset and puts stress on you I'm sure you can work it out. And if you can't just put up with it until you can move out I think that would be the best option.
Yeah should give your self some space for her then calmly explain. That’s the only way to get through to her.
Hey guys....I know this is a terrible place for this but I feel like I'm going crazy. I can't deal with this...I was just setting up the speakers for a meeting I had to join but because of this, I couldn't reply to the host so I was removed from the meeting. I try to explain this to my mom saying I can't join and she'll have to contact my teacher cause she's in the meeting. BUT NO she keeps saying try again and again AND AGAIN. I'm trying to explain it in the simplest way possible since my mom doesn't really know how to use a computer.....but then I get frustrated at her lack of understanding and started repeating my previous words, " I can't join cause I was removed!" SO she gets angry and starts bringing up childhood or how I'm failing at school. I'm over here trying to get back on the subject but NO she keeps bringing up the past and I can't take it. Since when did trying to explain a situation go into an argument about how I was when I was a kid and my grades!!! THE STUPIDITY OF THIS SITUATION WAS DRIVING ME INSANE! I'm done....I give up trying to reason with my mom....I'll just shut the fuck up then and not explain anything to her now. Fuck this shit.