Everyone understood what you’re trying to express but not everyone agrees with you. Ryo and Akanishi are fuck buddies (as the title indicates), Ryo shouldn’t be upset about Akanishi getting a girlfriend unless he liked Akanishi. Flat out asking Ryo would mean that he had to unveil his own feelings and he wasn’t ready for that out of his fear of rejection, which lead him to what he did/said. Again Akanishi didn’t know about Ryo’s trauma and thus couldn’t have predicted that outcome. Trauma is a very personal thing and you decide who you share it with. Akanishi didn’t know what Ryo’s trigger was and he didn’t have any malice intentions. Kstar explained the difference between influencing (what Akanishi did) and manipulating very well so I believe that is understood. Now Ryo did make a conscious decision and he was able to distinguish between his (according to his own morals) right and wrong. He just didn’t care in that moment. And lastly, people with PTSD or panick attacks or anxiety don’t blame other people for triggering them, ESPECIALLY not those who didn’t even know they had a disorder. Triggers are inevitable.
Past traumas or not, he decided to go fxxx some stranger on his own. The Akan (the seme) messed up by lying, trying to get Ryo (the uke) to realize his feelings for him but it is not his fault of the outcome. Ryo made a conscious decision. We have to be able to take responsibility. I feel for both but both are responsible for things that happen to themselves, not each other. Welcome to adulthood and life. I know it sucks. ╮(￣▽￣)╭
How can he stay next to Ryo when it's obvious he can't help him? I don't think he even knows what had happened in Ryo's past. Right now I know he must be feeling misplaced guilt. In his own clumsy way he was trying to get the stubborn Ryo to see...