Hmm... it's good that he's helping him get out of that abusive situation, but it's awful p...

Lifeincircuit July 24, 2019 5:34 am

Hmm... it's good that he's helping him get out of that abusive situation, but it's awful presumptuous to make a move without discussing with the person who's being abused first. You can't just force someone to leave an abusive relationship, and even if he did want to, you can't assume that it's safe for them/their loved ones/their potential pets/etc to up and leave without a plan.


I accept that I am overthinking this. Lol

Responses
    AnimGirlVero July 24, 2019 10:37 am

    So if you know that your friend/sister/brother has an abusive situation, you would first discuss with him/her to stop, but he/she does not want to, so u let go?
    Sometimes people in an abusive relationship are afraid to break it of, I would still kinda force her/him to let go

    Aiteal July 24, 2019 10:46 am
    So if you know that your friend/sister/brother has an abusive situation, you would first discuss with him/her to stop, but he/she does not want to, so u let go? Sometimes people in an abusive relationship are... AnimGirlVero

    thumb up!

    blatantescapist July 24, 2019 11:18 am

    Yeah, Fukami apologized in chapter 2 and said it's ultimately Miya's choice to leave the relationship so in the mean time, he's free to stay at his home. It's better than getting the fist back in Eiji's place lol.

    @AllAnimeMag July 24, 2019 11:22 am
    So if you know that your friend/sister/brother has an abusive situation, you would first discuss with him/her to stop, but he/she does not want to, so u let go? Sometimes people in an abusive relationship are... AnimGirlVero

    It's a really complicated situation and honestly as the friend or family member you should show you support but at the end of the day it is their choice and it is with their timing. Yea the situation is crap but there are ways to go about handling it...'saving' someone doesn't always end in gratitude...

    Lilly3.14 July 24, 2019 11:23 am
    So if you know that your friend/sister/brother has an abusive situation, you would first discuss with him/her to stop, but he/she does not want to, so u let go? Sometimes people in an abusive relationship are... AnimGirlVero

    I totally understand your point...however there are situations when the abused person does not want to break up the relationship...it seems impossible but it does happen... they are just too immersed or dependent...and you can’t chose for them in the end...I have a friend who lived with a sicko psycho (add drug addict to that)... me and a few other friends who knew something was wrong went to her and she finally moved out...but she did continue to see him...and even came back after a few years...and the abuse intensified... we didn’t know what to do...some of us just left and she just cut all communication with the ones that tried to help saying “they do not know and they judge me and my love...”... I discussed with her a lot on the issue but never dared force her to leave ... so that she could call me if needed ... it took her 2 years to understand that he was the problem and not her and she finally left...by the time she had become a drug addict and unemployed (did I mention that guy never worked a day in his life?) and had a lot to deal with ... however she had to realize by and for herself what he really was... now she is slowly rebuilding herself... to clarify it was mainly psychological abuse... rarely physical (happened once or twice but one of our friend went to him at the time ... and was really persuasive)

    Lifeincircuit July 25, 2019 6:05 am
    So if you know that your friend/sister/brother has an abusive situation, you would first discuss with him/her to stop, but he/she does not want to, so u let go? Sometimes people in an abusive relationship are... AnimGirlVero

    Correct, in most instances. You can't force it. It doesn't work. If someone does not want to leave, they won't. But also, leaving an abusive relationship is complicated and there are a lot of details which need to be worked out. The situation he caused, if it were real life, could have created a much, much more dangerous scenario.