I can rec ABO mangas that don't fall into those pitholes!
1. Ou-sama to Puppy Love, omegas get to live in their own district free from the confines of the caste. Yukyu Omega, they get paid leave and aren't treated like dirt.
2. Soredemo Suki desu Kasahara-san, highlights that exact problem but the alpha is real tired of the expectations that come with it since he's being bombarded with work. Seku Tsuga, the omega's defiiiinitely not treating him as the second coming of Jesus. For the most part I feel bad for the alpha since he's so sincere and he was used for convenience.
3. The following focuses on Beta x Omega: Youchi na Koi wo Doushiyou, Joukakei Kareshi, Romantic Joutou, Kurui Naku no wa Boku no Ban Beta (god this one hurts D:),
The following focuses on Alpha x Beta: Kashikomarimashita, Destiny (second couple), My Former Significant Others Were All Alphas, Yamashii Imi Toka Arimasen – Tadaima Okaeri
4. See topic one. (Megumi to Tsugumi) Megumi's buddies think that way but Megumi made them shut up. (Kekkon Shite Kudasai) as far as I remember, everyone's decent, (Omae no Koi wa Ore no Mono) aside from that alpha chick, everyone's decent too. (Sayonara Alpha) for the most part it's an omega trying not to commit a fuckin' crime LOL.
5. OH BOY. Boku No High Spec Kareshi-sama addresses this very concerns. An omega really wants to top an alpha and this crazy perfect man is open to the idea. There's also Sutenaide My Hero, there's something strange about that omega and I'm pretty sure the alpha is catching on.
6. Junjou Shounen, this alpha's done everything in his power not to take the omega even during heat. Really sweet boy. Wagamama mo Kimi no Tame Nara Ikura Demo, this one turned into a fluffy yaoi omegaverse. Unmei no Kisu wa Oazuke, respectful alpha. Totsugimasen Kara, bit himself before anything happened AND it's shounen-ai so there's zero rape/sex scenes.
7. Some of the titles I've mentioned about disagrees with this point. Tadaima Okaeri's probably the best for this.
8. For something completely different, Okusama wa Alpha has two alphas together. Incredibly cute. Hanagara Tsumi has the alpha interested in the omega outside of heat.
9. Bruh, maybe I pick my omegaverses well cuz I've never really seen a manga like this yet. I hope to let it stay that way. A furry omegaverse, Pendulum: Jujin-- actually goes so far as to make uke take meds so he doesn't take heat in order to not let him become a free-for-all-breeding omega for the alphas. Doesn't matter in the end tho lol they got soul bonded. ╮( ̄▽ ̄)╭
10. Shounen no Kyoukai is an ABO manga that centers around defying fated pairs. It's got rape though. Not for everyone. There's also the second half of Kashikomarimashita, Destiny where the whole alpha/omega fated pair was addressed. End game was alpha/beta. 10/10 would recommend the manga.
11. since there's plenty of omegaverse mangas that don't have a baby i guess i can recommend anything lol uhhhh Totsugimasen Kara
The point about Alphas being seme and Omegas being uke is pretty much what ABO is about, though. Go read the wiki and its main origins. I remember some dumb author tried to shake it up by making all Omegas the seme and Alphas the uke, which... is the same thing, except just switching the names around. It’s not unique to switch it around. Anyway, I digress. I just mean that that point is kind of like complaining that Yaoi always contains gay sex, which is dumb.
i can see them switching outside the heat cycle but during heat, don't omegas get this need to get fucked in the ass? that's why they're leaking down there? you see their thoughts going like "man i need some alpha dick, i need something in me etc etc" right there with "man i don't want this what a pain lol" being an uke means receiving by seme is attacking. so it's part of their genes.
Lets compare lists... http://www.mangago.zone/home/mangalist/334330/
1. Omegas are treated like shit, looked down upon and pretty much have no human rights
2. Alphas are treated like the second coming of jesus
3. Betas are barely mentioned even though they're the most common type
4. Omegas are seen as nothing but a breeding toy
5. Omegas are the bottom, while the Alpha is the top
6. That one rape scene between the omega and alpha because the omega forgot to take his supression pills and/or the alpha is going through a rut and they cAn'T sToP tHeIr UrGeS (bonus points if the omega CLEARLY says "no" or "stop")
7. omega and alpha then proceed to fall in love because the super power of rape as a plot point (bonus points if the rape is never addressed after)