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oh you are completely right, my issue is this is VERY specific trope that yaoi uses more times than any other and while their are still bully trope plots in both shoju and yuri plots you do not get the same level of blatant love for these toxic relationships.You do however see in heterosexual plots the "turn around" of the bully character but for gay counterparts you have the one being bullied has been in love with their bully the entire time with a personality change doing nothing to lessen that attraction. Best example of that is the recent show SEXEDUCATION on Netflix its a perfect example of this problem of fetishizing homophobia in mediums besides manga.
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I totally agree with you. Not only that, but it's super rare to see a main character who is bullied to stand up for himself. Most of them put up with all the shit the other is throwing at them. It frustrate me so much. I don't understand the people who enjoy reading something like that.
P.S I can recommend a gay Tv show which is pretty realistic.
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Oh that's a very interesting way of viewing things. Thank u for sharing. Personally, I've been teased/bullied (not too extremely tho) my whole life that I sort of grew numb to it, so those tropes feel...normal... to me; but when u pointed that out, I can sort of understand how messed up that can be o.o
i have to wonder do people actually think about the damage caused by authors routinely writing plots about their main character falling in love with their bully? Do people not realize that for queer men how messed up it is to already be attracted to the same sex but to then be attracted to the person who physically and emotionally harms them as well?That's has to be one clusterfuck of insecurities and self hate but then it's romanticized for mainly heterosexual female readers who will never understand how it feels to hate yourself for loving someone who hates you and is validated by their hate by society and your own peers.It is such a seriously fucked up trope and I truly do not understand its appeal.