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I'm sorry to say that there will never come a time when you won't unintentionally hurt people. Working on your flaws is a good thing but so many people have invisible triggers, wounds, and sore spots that even if you never say anything objectionable they will feel hurt. Even if you become mute there will be people who would be hurt because you won't talk to them. Just do your best and remember that part of being kind to people is being kind to yourself.
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this will probably sounds funny but why don't you try doing the mbti test? the test helped me a lot about recognizing my flaws and my own personality https://www.16personalities.com/ also maturing helps you a lot lol
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Well I don’t think I’m a kind person but I also don’t think I’m a bad person. Though I do think I have not so high morals lmao. If I had to choose between saving a million people and myself, I’d choose myself lol. I mean why would I sacrifice myself for a bunch of strangers? ╮( ̄▽ ̄)╭
And I think it’s alright to sometimes unintentionally hurt people’s feelings. It’s like a part of being human. I’ve also been hurt by some people’s words and usually I just shrugged it off since if I take too much offense in it, it’ll just backfire on myself. Let bygones be bygones lol. And yeah, what LaughingAardvark says is true. There’s always gonna be people who’s triggered about almost everything and misunderstands your words into something bad. It’s good to be nice but not too nice. If you’re just too nice, people are gonna take advantage of you and think you’re a fool. If you’re just too bad, people are gonna hate you and stay away from you. It’s fine to be neutral.
Tbh, I personally prefer being with people who’s straightforward and doesn’t conceal their feelings too much. At least I wouldn’t be that uneasy by thinking that the person is probably uncomfortable with me. Besides, people matured through their life. It just happens naturally anyway. You learn from your past mistakes. No need to force yourself to change drastically. We take it step by step.
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Hmmmm. I feel that your statement is very vague. I don’t think that being a nice or kind person is what you should be aiming for though. I think if you have good morals that you stick to then being kind is more of an after effect.
If you want to compliment somebody because you truly believe they look nice then that compliment is genuine. But if you are just saying it to make yourself look good then that is no good. Of course if they ask you of your opinion it is better to be honest with somebody however sometimes it benifits the other person more emotionally if you lie.
If you are hurting somebody repeatably I think somewhere in your heart you know what you are doing and just don’t want to change. I suggest instead of saying you want to change and talking about it, to go out and do something you don’t normally do to become happier with yourself.
The last piece of advice I have is to not be mean and say negitive comments while “in the moment”. Nothing good ever comes from anger and frustration. Know when you need to take a break and figure out your own limits. If you don’t know your own limita you’re never going to figure out anybody elses limits.
I think I'm generally an awful person. I really try to be kind, but in all honesty, I don't think that kindness is actually mine. I feel like I'm just pretending? I don't know, maybe it's not so much that I'm a bad person (at least not in the sense that I want to cause harm to others), I guess I'm frustrated with how I unintentionally hurt others. I hate my flaws, and I dislike that I can be difficult to deal with. I have so many regrets. Will, I ever be able to improve to the point I won't feel frustrated anymore?