Haven't you ever been there?

freidanielsen May 20, 2019 3:47 am

I agree that communication is the issue here but I can see the problem on both sides of the table. Young lover is insecure because he can't m see his lover as much as he wants and is afraid that new people at work would pull his lovers attention away. Older lover is tired and mentally/physically exhausted and unable to express himself in a nice manner. How many times have you had to stay up with a sick baby for 3 or 4 days? Did you talk nicely to everyone or did you lose your composure? Sometimes we do and say things to even our loved ones in times of stress that didn't come out the way we mean them to. I am considered a very loving person but even I have had times of high stress and was unable to cope with even something simple like a phone call or polite conversation. Take a step in someone else's shoes or just look at it from another angle and you might be able to understand what the mangaka was trying to convey with this story. Love forgives, the same way our loved ones forgive us for our mistakes. Or, maybe I just have a more generous heart?

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    Chinchillah December 14, 2019 6:39 pm

    You're right about the way he didn't answer in a nice manner but he still should've been the one to apologize instead of waiting for his lover to do that since he was the one at fault. He had a lot of time to think it all over

    freidanielsen December 15, 2019 10:53 am

    Don't get me wrong Chinchillah, both were wrong in this sense, The older one was both mentally and physically exhausted so he really didn't have the reserves to deal with the problem even tho he knew he was wrong, figuring he could fix it when he had the time and energy to explain things to his younger lover. He had no way of knowing that the crisis at his job was going to take so long to fix. But, I do get where you are coming from since the older lover should have resolved the issue by explaining to his lover what was going on, but you also have to agree that his lover really didn't understand that he was under so much strain and pressure, until he was faced with the reality of his lovers collapse. I think they both should have taken a deep breath, counted to ten, and then have a calm discussion about their situation. Don't you agree???

    Chinchillah December 17, 2019 11:17 am
    Don't get me wrong Chinchillah, both were wrong in this sense, The older one was both mentally and physically exhausted so he really didn't have the reserves to deal with the problem even tho he knew he was wro... freidanielsen

    Yeah I agree but the way he told his lover they shouldnt see each other for a while after he said that hes scared hes putting him aside is just annoying you know? Ik he said that out of being exhausted but then after saying that he decided to wait for his younger lover to apologize and text him. Unreasonable and it brings pain to your partner. The younger lover shouldve apologize also tho cuz like you said they were both at fault. He was making trouble in front of his work and coworker.
    The crisis at work was bad and they were sleeping in the company but he actually couldve send a short message about not calling and go straight to sleep would take 2 mins. Is he working in a black company that they dont even get 5 mins of break for a whole night?
    In the end they resolved it sure but it just doesnt leave me feeling any kind of happiness. I just disliked the whole story and even if both of them were at fault and they kind of apologized in the end nobody will really forget all the big problems they have.

    freidanielsen December 17, 2019 12:26 pm
    Yeah I agree but the way he told his lover they shouldnt see each other for a while after he said that hes scared hes putting him aside is just annoying you know? Ik he said that out of being exhausted but then... Chinchillah

    I get what you are saying...I guess because we have womens hearts we tend to view things differently from men with all their macho preening...I'm glad I am a woman who can think with my heart as well as my head!

    Spade May 25, 2020 8:50 am
    Don't get me wrong Chinchillah, both were wrong in this sense, The older one was both mentally and physically exhausted so he really didn't have the reserves to deal with the problem even tho he knew he was wro... freidanielsen

    I know this comment was made a long time ago but just wanted to say I agree that they’re both at fault. But personally if I’m in a relationship I don’t want to hurt my partner. So if I’m not in a great physical or mental state I would rather end the relationship bc I feel like it’s being selfish to think they should put up with me. I don’t like feeling like a burden on others. I can understanding needing support and leaning on each other by telling the other person what’s going on. However even if you explain and it’s months of not seeing each other than your not in a relationship anymore.
    But if I know the problem at my work will go away in a few days I would just explain to my partner so they can focus on what they’re doing instead of worrying. In the end you have to think about the situation objectively in order to come up with a solution.