but there was no love from the start to the end so it would never have worked out ... so it was just her wishful thinking.
I don't think the only valuable kind of love is the passionate one. Neither are all solid, lasting and healthy couples build on passionate love from the start. I believe affection, caring, respect and empathy are needed, and love can derive from it with time as well as the other way around. Don and Nami had that. So I don't blame her for trying for so long to seek her heart's desire. She could have succeeded, though Don doesn't seem like the kind to reciprocate her feelings. He was still mourning for Haero after 10 years and wouldn't move on....
I feel bad for Nami, seeing all you built for the last 10 years crumble in less than what? a few months? must feel horrible.