Confession - unrequited love

Ace March 16, 2019 9:29 pm

Hi,

I'm an 18 year old guy and I confessed to someone that was very close to me who is also a guy whilst knowing I would get rejected. I've never had those feelings for any other guy before but I felt it was necessary to confess to him. He had told me that one of his close friends has confessed to him the other day and was becoming distant with them. I was hoping to confess at a later date but because I knew the inevitable I thought I would just get it over and done with. I confessed and of course he rejected me. We used to talk all the time and he says he doesn't hate me but we talk less now which is disheartening.

I feel shit and that there is something wrong with me, all I want is comfort . Hopefully , things will get better I've not had these feelings before .

Responses
    민지 March 16, 2019 9:40 pm

    Aww, of course there's nothing wrong with you!!!(づ ̄ ³ ̄)づ
    I think you did the right thing by confessing. It wouldn't be easy living while crushing on someone that close to you and them not knowing. You expressed how you felt towards him and that's all that matters. I'm sorry you unfortunately got rejected, you must really hurt now, but maybe he wasn't the right one?? I'm sure you'll fall in love again and hopefully stumble across someone who will feel the same way for you. You're still young, I'm sure there's someone out there better for you.
    (⌒▽⌒)

    gaybitch March 16, 2019 9:55 pm

    For me, as a gay girl I can never confess to the girl I like and ironically I always feel the pain of giving up and trying to hide my feelings is worse than getting rejected. One time, I had strong feelings for this girl but I closed myself off from her because I assumed she was straight, she always opened up to me but I felt my feelings would be worse if I got closer to her so I eventually distanced myself and then she did too. Now she is currently going out with another girl and every time I see them I'm filled with regret like "maybe if I had opened up or told her how I felt that would be me" even if that's probably not true.

    From my position I admire you a lot for being able to tell your feelings, even though you got rejected if you hadn't of confessed you would have never had closure and the regret is sometimes worse and makes it harder to move on. Trust me dude it will definitely get better and there is nothing wrong with you at all, we've all been there. I hope you feel better soon x

    aika.edits_ March 16, 2019 10:10 pm

    Aww honey there is nothing wrong with you. I confessed to my friend I likes him and that I was bisexual. He rejected me and is also growing distant. He said that he respects my sexuality but deep down I think he rather me be straight then go for girls aswell. We are all perfectly normal people and should not have to be treated like there is something wrong with us just because we wanna fuck girls and/or guys of the same gender. It's wrong of your friend to distance from you because you confessed. Don't feel down about it and there are many other people out there who are so much better for you

    Tanssia March 16, 2019 11:26 pm

    First of all, you did an incredibly courageous thing by confessing in the first place, often people just leave it as an unspoken love, so kudos to you for that. :) And unfortunately, with confessing to a friend there’s always the risk of that friendship being different after said confession. It’s gonna hurt for a bit but love does that. Feel the pain but don’t regret that you confessed (bc now you know) or that you had feelings for him (better to love than not) it’ll just take some time.

    Sorry if I’m just rambling and if this isn’t much help but I hope for your happiness. :)