It's fine if you share what is on your mind every once in a while in here. And totally understand how you feel cause I had a gay friend as well. Oh but, he doesn't have that bad kinda vibe to it when he is with the girls. At least not that much(￣∇￣"). But from time to time, I guess they could feel jealous and ended up doing things that might hurt the girl's feeling. Well, but of course not all of them are like that. I understand that you were shocked by the behavior of that guy especially when you intended to befriend with him hoping he was a good guy. But don't worry in your case, it's just that the person you met had a seriously sucks personality, not because of his being as a gay but as a human person himself. That is all. ╮(￣▽￣)╭
Σ( ￣□￣) I think it's rare to find people that rude usually, but we just drew out the short end of the stick...
He is an asshole who happens to be gay. Remember, being gay doesn't make anybody different. It is just a sexuality, so think of it as meeting an asshole who happens to be gay instead of it being the other way around.
I think this goes without saying, but reality is different from fiction. He is a person, not a character. You said it yourself, actually, didn't you?
I understand your fascination since you've never really met any lgbt person before, but please think of us as normal people, ok? Maybe it is easy for me since I am surrouned by lgbt people (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender), but it would be nice if you didn't think of it as a fantasy that was crushed, and simply regard it as an unpleasant trip with a misogynist (who happens to be gay). Trust me, there are many kind gay people (just like there are kind heterosexuals).
Bless at your reply. I was just about to say the same thing.
I'll try to tone down the fantasies (￣∇￣")
Reading your reply was like a pat on the back, I don't even think I'm that disappointed about it anymore (๑•ㅂ•)و✧
I'll just brush it as rotten luck and forget about it
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I am glad you are feeling better. I hope you meet kinder people in the future!
Haha(⌒▽⌒) don't mind, don't mind...you'll find a better person to befriend within the near futureヾ(☆▽☆).
ohhh...I get ya'. the curiosity to know the reason(๑•ㅂ•)و✧... the feeling of wanting to know...(づ￣ ³￣)づ well that's human for you.. ╮(￣▽￣)╭
So, I've been out camping with my close friends (and their friends) the last couple of days, we first introduced ourselves on our way to the camping site (since there were many people who didn't know each other) and we had a blast even on the bus on our way there, the people were really super nice and friendly and we felt super close to each other even though it was our first meeting, all of us, except for one.
And no, we didn't single him out, he was the one who singled all the girls away from him, he was so rude, and he really went too far in some situations that I've truly been left dumbfounded! I always believed in the good of others, I never thought someone can be that shameless without feeling a tiny bit of guilt, but this trip was a one life lesson for me.
Let me break it down to pieces, firstly when we introduced ourselves, he bluntly came out and told us he's gay and open about it, I never met a gay person before (or at least someone who told me they are) so I was really fascinated! I was so happy, I really looked forward to talking with him! it was like seeing the MCs of yaoi mangas irl! But to not freak him out, I decided to lay low first then approach him as time pass.
During the trip, I started to notice stuff he did, he started soliciting girls out from the group, me included, he was double-faced! He just looked like the angel in front of the guys and he was a bully when he came to the girls! He really had the worst personality I've ever seen in my life! Nothing that people do usually affect me, but I was so taken back by him! From pushing girls away without blinking an eye to easily resolving to violence when things don't go his way and has that victim mentality whenever he does something wrong! Me and the girls endured it, since we didn't want our trip to be ruined by something like that, so we just went on with it, even our male friends were feeling something is off and awkward about it, one of my friends (male) even confronted him about why he's treating the girls like that? and he just said that he just hate girls...
That's when I blew up and actually lost all the little respect I had for him, for some reason I always thought gay people would be the least type of people to judge others depending on something like gender! Yet, he just hated us all just for simply being girls! I get that girls in yaoi are bitches most of the time, and I rarely see a good girl in a yaoi manga, but that's manga! I was just so speechless, this was my first time meeting a gay person, and I was so disappointed and hurt.
I wouldn't want to judge a group of people depending on a single person that I met, I'm not even asking to be liked or loved, just not to be hated, I felt so unfaired, I'll just wish that the next gay person that I meet would be a nice one.
I didn't want to share my feelings somewhere else and fall into misunderstandings and get interrupted as something else, so I'm vending off here... I just had my yaoi fantasy crushed, and I thought you guys would understand... sigh ... still, it was a nice trip other than that, and I had a blast in it after being locked in the house for awhile lol, it was a good change of mood ^^