To be honest I side with Unnie here. Although my country is fairly liberal when it comes to (straight) relationships, the fact that a 33 y/o man lied so he could date a 20 y/o girl is, well, plain gross. I myself think that the power imbalance in those kind of relationships (as in, straight couples where the man is way older than the woman) is unfair, putting the guy in a position of advantage that allows him to have the upper hand in the relationship (which often turns toxic). If that is a common occurrence in Brazil, I can only imagine how much power a 33 y/o Hyung could have over his 20 y/o girlfriend in Korea. Although you could say this is simply "my opinion", to which I agree, it seems to be an opinion shared by Unnie.
That being said, would never dream to impose my thoughts on the ones who are dating much older people. What I would do, instead, is avoid such relationships myself (and advise friends to avoid it as well). By lying about his age, that guy essentially took away Unnie's option of doing that, aka, her option of avoiding a (likely) problematic relationship. So her anger is totally justified (づ￣ ³￣)づ
Yeah, I get your point, I just prefer to know people first and not just give up because of their age :^/ you don't know if it will really be a toxic realtionship if you don't actually get to meet the person, they just had ONE DATE and he "at least" (even though wrong) said his real age by the first date and not like waaaay later on if they happened to date or not.
As much as common a situation is, is not nice to put everyone on the same bag, that's what I think at least. I know that it's other people's choice to risk it or not by that age difference thing, but she did put that person in the same level of "perverted old men who think they can date younger girls" without getting to know him more to begin with.
I did say it was just me, I wasn't trying to not justify her anger really I just wanted to state what I'd do being a different kind of person haha it was ok for her to be mad but I'd be more mad about someone lying to me than their age because I can't say how someone is by only their age without really getting to know them more.
Did I explain myself better now? xD I really tried so the text is kind of long, sorry for that.
Hm, she was upset because he lied as well. The thing is that a lot of men tend to go after younger girls, and the reason is because, well, they are younger. Older women are seen as having less value. Do you see now why she was angry he pretended to be young? He hid his age likely so that he has a better chance with YOUNGER girls as most girls prefer to date someone of similar age and thus experiences, which is understandable as large age gaps can lead to irreconcilable differences in ideals and maturity. It's predatory as some men think that younger girls are more attractive and don't like to date older women, even if they are also older.
Yeah, I think moving forward this site needs to have greater conversations on critically analysing relationships to examine power dynamics, we need to understand why certain individuals solely seek out MUCH younger partners is an issue. We all really have to scrutinise the things we write here as, despite the main focus of the site being mature content, it attracts a largely younger audience and when reading mediums illustrating older love they may conflate this with their own real-life romantic prospects (dw I used to do the same thing). I see a lot of pure naivety and white-knighting (for guys) in this site and I know that this is a manga/manhua/manwha hub but where there is a lack of scrutiny there will be more misconceptions on these complex issues.
Hopefully, this gets discussed further and brought up again in other comment sections.
Even though Eun was saying all that "guys care too much about women's looks" and all that speech, she DOES care about someone's age... like COME ON you can't go judging people by their age too, 33 is not that far anyways!! But I guess that's korean culture since they do care a lot about who is a hyung/oppa/unnie/noona and who is a dongsaeng, all that "treat those older than you with respect"ish
F THAT, IF YOU A DOUCHE DON'T EXPECT ME TO JUST GO ALONG WITH YOUR BS
Still not cool she got more worked up about the fact that he was 33 than the fact that he lied. I'd be 10000 times more upset if someone where to lie to me about anything, but that's just me I guess