Rape is rape, there's no denying that.

QueenPotatoFace November 23, 2018 4:27 pm

While I've always understood that there are varying degrees of rape that can at times blur the lines (statutory, incest, under the influence of substance, etc...) I think what is most important when making this distinction is the mental health of the victim and their judgement in regards to the act. When his student childishly tried to rationalize his actions by accusing sensei of not resisting enough sensei asked him, "Did you think that meant you had my consent?" and I haven't read a chapter yet in which I didn't think about those words. Consent is so important and can be revoked at anytime if you or your partner changes their mind. It's literally the reason why a 'safe word' exists. Even the most intense BDSM practitioners use a safe word, or a body gesture/alarm for plays where the sub cannot speak all because consent is so important. This was inarguably unconsentual sex and the very basis of rape, and not something either could easily forget or move past. However, with the thought that actions speak louder than words, sensei acts as though this was a hormonal mistake of adolescence and it seems as though he might even believe that he deserved being taken advantage of due to the 'disgusting' feelings he harbors toward someone who is supposed to be just a friend. I am well aware that it's incredibly common for rape victims to find ways to blame themselves but this seems like self deprecation that has been his crutch for years already. This seems like in the heat of the moment sensei jumped to the most harsh definition of what his student had done not because he saw it solely as rape or because he was traumatized by the event but rather because he wanted to punish himself and his student by making the act of sex between two men even more of a sin than he already felt by labeling it as rape.

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    Fre November 24, 2018 6:25 am

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