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Yeah I agreed for the most part until the end. Communicating isn't the cure all for the whole world's ills that people seem to believe it is. In fact it can make things worse. Mutual compromise is far better in that respect. And so far Yujin is the only one doing the compromising.
That is true, but there is a alck of communication as well, and solving that can definitely help even if it is mot the enitee problem
He's not. In no way is he "cheating". He and Yujin are not together, and he has explicitly stated this MULTIPLE TIMES.
Yes, neither Sui or Yujin are completely innocent in this matter, but it's also not really either of their faults.(¿)
To start, Sui said he wouldn't give him his heart. This was stated at the beginning of their tryst and has not so far been revoked. Sui still, at this moment in the manga (ch. 49) is not planning on ending up with Yujin.
Yes, we have seen some sort of stir of feelings, and it's obvious that he's starting to have feelings for him, but at the moment they are not together.
Also, for those calling Sui a slut:
He's been traumatised. He was raped by someone he trusted, a higher-up in a company he thought would protect him. That's scary and terrible enough to fuck ANYONE up. And he now uses sex to help him cope.
Also, in this manga and in real life it's no one's fucking business who sleeps with who, you can't just call someone a slut because they like sex??? Don't be a bigot it's 2018.
He is allowed to like sex, he's allowed to sleep with different people. The only problems are whether it is consensual or not, or whether or he is cheating on his partner. Which, again, he is single because he and Yujin are NOT TOGETHER.
yet ( ^ω^ )
Also, Hyun is obviously a bad person. It's quite possible he's done horrible things to Sui that haven't been mentioned let alone the things we've seen him do so far.
Now, a lot of people are mad at him for sleeping with Hyun when he has Yujin (again not together ksksjs), but also, from what we've seen so far it kind of has the feel of a classic victim and absuer trope.
And I worry for Sui. He's obviously still got feelings for someone who will, in the end, hurt him over and over again.
He was TERRIFIED when he had the dream of Hyun choking him, and terrified once more when Hyun choked him again, and (nonconesually I will add) tied him up and then contacted Yujin. Something like that is NOT okay
Yes, he's dumb and should have never started meeting Hyun again, but the thing that makes abusive relaionships so scary and hard to get out of is the control the abuser exerts over the victim. It's the dependency that the victim feels towards the one who hurts him, and of course, I may be wrong about Hyun, but I don't trust him for a moment and I'm hoping Sui doesn't become stuck.
Now, as for Yujin: he's possessive and naïve. Yes, he's absolutely in love with someone that he's convinced he can make love him back..... I'm sorry Yujin but that itn't actually how it works (besides in Yaoi where it often does but I digress).
He knew from the beginning that Sui would not absolutely come to him and only him. He knew early on that Sui does like to sleep around and does enjoy sex, not necessarily all from just one person.
But what he can't understand is that they are not together. He's a child. He's getting hurt over the very things Sui warned him about, and believe me, I do feel bad for him, but this is also something he needs to learn from. At one point he cried to Sui saying that even if all they had was sex, and yada yada that he would still always want to be by his side. He tells Sui he doesn't care when in all actuality he does and then gets mad at Sui for doing what he said was alright (or said at least wouldn't bother him, especially not enough).
They're both childish. Sui thinking he can take on everything alone when Yujin so desperately wants to help and protect him, and Yujin for thinking Sui is his and his alone when they've never made any sort of decision like that together.
They need to communicate. Yujin needs to realise that he needs to tell Sui that the way he acts is something he can't take, even if he's afraid of losing him. And Sui needs to realise that Hyun will never do anything besides hurt him, and that Yujin, regardless of whether they end up together in the end or not, only has his best interests in mind.
I'm just hoping that it works out in the end, and they are both happy.
I don't want to see Yukin cry over someone who might never love him back, and I don't want Sui to become any more self destructive.
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