Being compared to older sibling

Jake.M November 11, 2018 12:58 pm

God I hate when my parents do this. I even had a few family members and teacher say "why aren't you like your sister?, are you really related?, why can't you be more like her? why are you so stupid?" But unlike Alex here, I didn't try getting top grades, I gave up on it until entering middle school, now I've graduated high school with advanced placement classes and my sister having stopped halfway never graduated. Do I feel better now? Nope still feel like shit

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    Shizuka November 11, 2018 1:28 pm

    Aww you poor thing T-T *hugs you through the screen*

    Yaoifan November 12, 2018 4:31 am

    But at least you have something to rub in their faces like 'What were you saying about me being stupid?" They'd look like fools. It always annoys me when people, especially people who should be supporting you and being there for you to grow as a person, end up being the same people who discourages and compares you to others and puts you down. These people needs to be shamed! And rightfully so.

    Jake.M November 12, 2018 7:26 am
    But at least you have something to rub in their faces like 'What were you saying about me being stupid?" They'd look like fools. It always annoys me when people, especially people who should be supporting you a... Yaoifan

    yeah I can rub it in their face, they were surprised and now they call me smart and compliment me but it doesn't make me feel good. I feel like the fool still in the end, I still think I'm not good enough for myself

    Jake.M November 12, 2018 7:28 am
    Aww you poor thing T-T *hugs you through the screen* Shizuka

    *hugs back* a hugs just what I need after all the struggles thanks ^-^

    Yaoifan November 13, 2018 7:04 am
    yeah I can rub it in their face, they were surprised and now they call me smart and compliment me but it doesn't make me feel good. I feel like the fool still in the end, I still think I'm not good enough for m... Jake.M

    YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH. No matter what anyone else tells you, you are good enough. The person who you need to be pleasing is not others. It is yourself! And as the saying goes sometimes we can end up being our own worst enemy. So please, think better of yourself. I was also made fun of and compared when I was younger. And though it too took me some time to get over it and develop some self-love and self-confidence for myself I am at a stage in my life that I could care less what anyone thinks of me because I understand myself and know what I want and will no discourage and demeanours run my day and things I have planed out for myself.

    Jake.M November 14, 2018 4:31 pm
    YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH. No matter what anyone else tells you, you are good enough. The person who you need to be pleasing is not others. It is yourself! And as the saying goes sometimes we can end up being our own... Yaoifan

    Thank you. I also no longer care for what others say but there is a part of me that quietly tells me I'm not good enough but I have learned to live with it and ignore it. Glad to know that you also developed some self-love and confidence, I tell myself to laugh at everything. ya know like, take it lightly.

    Yaoifan November 15, 2018 5:04 am
    Thank you. I also no longer care for what others say but there is a part of me that quietly tells me I'm not good enough but I have learned to live with it and ignore it. Glad to know that you also developed so... Jake.M

    That is also another good way to go about it, taking things lightly. Good to know it doesn't really bother you too much anymore.

    As for the gibberish I wrote at the end of my comment, not even I know what I wrote there. I think about that time I may have been typing away with my eyes half closed since it was around after 3 or 4 in the morning, lol. (=・ω・=)

    Jake.M November 15, 2018 11:21 pm
    That is also another good way to go about it, taking things lightly. Good to know it doesn't really bother you too much anymore. As for the gibberish I wrote at the end of my comment, not even I know what I wro... Yaoifan

    Harahan XD that's cool I sometimes do the same and question myself later when I'm fully awake