You're better off looking at resources online that dedicate to the topic (say AVEN). But you're kind of looking in the right direction as regards to asexuality. You can't really know you're demi/grey-a until you're in some sort of relationship or at least get to know what you're attracted to (be it physical or emotional).
Re demisexuality:
http://demisexuality.org/articles/could-i-be-demisexual/
So you get turned on by sex itself, but not by the body?
Don´t think of you being asexual or demisexual. I think your mindset is normal and healthy.
No, I even think it´s gross being turned on by simple nudity. If I go to the pool in swimsuit or go to the sauna naked, I want to relax and I don´t want other people getting turned on.
Also, I´m a therapist and I´ve seen halfnaked or naked patients. While toilet training or while I accompany them to the gynecologist or patients running around halfnaked/naked on the ward. I´ve seen penises, I´ve seen boobs, I´ve seen it all.
But it doesn´t bother me or turn me on, because for me it´s work and patients are asexual for me.
Moreover, if someone gets easily turned on by simple nudity, it should be forbidden for him/her doing a job where patients/clients are halfnaked/naked.
I don´t get turned on by nudity. I also don´t get turned on by getting a massage or giving a massage. I even don´t get turned on if people are handsome and have a great body.
I get turned on if I watch or read about a hot sex scene. I get turned on by the smut atmosphere before having sex or a session. I get turned on by the charisma of sadistic dominat people, their gaze, when I see they are enjoying teasing me (or tying me or playing with me or other things...*cough*).
So, I'm asking this here because I don't know where else to ask. I can't even imagine how I can feel so attracted to someone that i get turned on? Like, i can definitely feel attracted to bodies, but i can't imagine how i could get so turned on by a body, male OR female, that i want to have sex. I've fallen in love before, but the last time was years ago when I was 10 and I've never been in a relationship before. And If I read about or watch sex, it's the sex itself that turns me on, and not the bodies if that makes sense?? Don't get me wrong, I think about and WANT to have sex and i'm not unable to get turned on. But it's simply the idea that a body can ge me wet that's so foregin to me. Is this something I will understand when i fall in love again, now as someone older than ten year old me? Or is this something similar to being demi or asexual? I'm not really worried, but I would be thankful If I could understand myself a bit better. If anyone know what this is or feels the same thing, please respond^^ This confused gurl appreciate all answers ヾ(@^▽^@)ノ