Wrong your opinion is the majority. Victim blaming usually is. The victim should not be the one taking responsibility for the problems the victimizer creates. That's such a common response. Ktbn.
I never BLAMED him for anything. My opinion is that instead of just simply pitying the victim I think the victim should seek help. That's why I feel as though my opinion is unpopular compared to everyone just saying Maya should just pay more attending to him. I think when one needs constant validation then their self worth and esteem is low (I'm not saying that to down or shame him). So instead of just shaming the other party I think the victim should seek help with their individual problem.
The popular opinion is to just give sympathy and shame the the person who isn't in distress. Who is just indirectly causing harm (honestly when have we seen Maya point of view where he is purposely hurting him). I'm not shaming him and I'm not saying Maya is in the right. I'm saying ones mental health is more important. Not to just sit there and pity him, I think that does more harm then good.
Once again I apologize if you took it the wrong way. I'm not saying Nemu NEEDS to stand his ground when it comes to conveying his insecurities. I was trying to say if he had help it'll be easier for him to get his concerns across to Maya. I'm definitely not saying he should sit there and take it or to just get over it. He obviously was hurt and is still hurting I think ignoring such issues just doesn't solve itself especially when you're always around the person who caused them because affection can only do so much.
And honestly Maya seems to just be avoiding speaking to him about those emotional things maybe because he is afraid also. It's either that or he simply doesn't care about Nemu. Maybe relationship counselling will help them sort their emotional issues out because they both have it. But we're constantly looking at things from Nemu POV so not only do I care more about him then Maya I want for him to be happy on tbe inside and with himself.
Sorry I wrote so much but I wanted to make sure I wasn't being misunderstood and pegged as someone who thinks victims are at fault for being victims. Not at all, I think victims deserve mental and emotional happiness.
In short I'm saying I do feel sorry for him like everyone else and Mayu should be more considerate but I want for him to love himself also and not have to have Maya as the only source of self love.
I'm sorry but I'm most likely the last opinion that people will agree with. But Nemu needs to just go get professional help already. He is obviously emotionally hurting.
All of those insecurities are just eating at him that I don't see how he can even sustain a daily routine. I know everyone wants to blame Maya because he either doesn't give Nemu enough attention or he isn't hearing Nemu complaints about his insecurities enough. But honestly Nemu has to care enough about himself so he can be strong with relaying those feelings to him even if he changes subject he'll be able to STICK to what he is trying to convey, I think he needs help withshowing that emotion. If not then that's when he should take a step back from the relationship and just work on his mental health instead of wanting the person who is indirectly causing such feelings to stay giving you affection. Like honestly what is that going to solve? He is still going to be very much so insecure sadly.
I think he should focus more on his mental health and not a relationship to make him feel worthwhile. But of course this is Yaoi so in order for the story to continue there has to be drama. But if I knew someone like that in reality my advice would be for them to seek guidance not affirmation. Being secure with yourself will bring more happiness.
ETA- I'm not blaming Nemu for his insecurities I'm saying guidance will help him deal with those emotional feelings