Is there a truly wholesome BL out there?

I guess it’s becuase it’s kinda hard to find a plot where there isn’t conflict

I don't mind conflict, I mind if any of the above I mentioned are used bogusly I just tired of author's with crap plots throwing in these plot devices calling it "conflict" and moving on once they're bored of it.

Im no sure, maybe like this?

http://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/harenochi_shikibu/

Im not so sure, maybe like this?
http://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/harenochi_shikibu/

http://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/rutta_to_kodama/

Maybe

just recently read thank you so much for your suggestion otherwise. ABSOLUTELY love this

Thank You! Will give it a read

Try Minaduki Yuu....almost all of sensei's works don't have things you mentioned

I recommend Sayonara Game, prequel: Change world,Love nest
And this one
http://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/hinadori_wa_shiokaze_ni_madoromu/

Try looking into shounen ai. They're usually the easier things to read if you don't want the things you listed.

This isn't shounen ai but I had it in description as cute and something I'd read drinking tea and relaxing so http://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/yamada_to_shounen/

Try dark heaven. It deals with a lot of these issues in a realistic manner, and though there are a lot of conflicts, the ending is wholesome and fulfilling

Also, try Itoshi no Nekokke if you're looking for something lighter and cute (it has some sad scenes but they work it out)

there can be plot without there being rape, coercion, sexual violence, blackmail, lying, bullying, unequal power dynamics, Stockholm syndrome, domestic violence, or homophobia/biphobia.

Ruta To Kodama was one of the purest ones I’ve read. The seme was a bad boy I guess but not a bully, and it’s long term.

I think these will work
(though the uke is kinda homophobe but in realistic way also how he falls for the seme
just try it out)
http://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/castle_mango/
love these
http://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/hachimitsu_darling/
http://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/himegoto_asobi/
http://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/reply/
this is also nice, no heavy plot but not boring
http://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/tonari_ni_iru_no_ni_tooi/
cute
http://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/koisuru_barairo_tenchou/
the couple here started to comfort each other as friends (unrequited love)
http://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/bokura_ga_koi_wo_ushinau_riyuu/

thank you everyone for your posts

thank you!

will give it a look

i've read the one you've linked and loved it but will have to read the other two you've suggested.

Anything by Furuya Nagisa is pure (▰˘◡˘▰)

http://www.mangago.zone/home/mangalist/334286/