I work in a professional global company so i dont face this problem, however my friend work in all malay (my race) company and she is bullied by her coworkers (female) just because she is a new girl and an executive took a liking on her.
Based on my observation, the occurrence happens more often in a company with only one race. My other friends also faced problem being ostracized at work just because they dated someone with higher position in the company.
I get the empowerment thing, but women can also be scary when it comes to guys or their crush, especially when they ganging up with other female.
I worked in several companies where I met either nice women and women who can be rather mean. This one woman was such a bully that she backed me into a corner threatening me when all I was doing was just doing my job. Every little thing set her off. This one last job had every sort of person you can imagine. I think this was yaoi imagined. I always kept to myself but I observed the overtly nice person, the gossips, the bullies, the office easy people, the people who used their flirtation skills to get ahead in that business while sleeping with the boss while putting you down, I even had that one character like the sweet MC. Name it and we had it. Males and females alike.
I had a teacher in business college who made a point out of telling us that bullying did happen at some work places and that people died from it (either from illnesses related to being bullied or from suicide). He himself worked at a point in a huge company, where someone committed suicide after being repeatedly bullied. After a recent court case where 4 men (the employer and 3 workers) were found guilty of repeated bullying and sexual assault of a male apprentice (they held him down and shoved a broom shaft up his butt) nothing really surprises me anymore. People can be beyond cruel.
Without a doubt, we can be scary. From what you're saying, it's clear these women are insecure of their position in the company, the fact that though they've been working there for a while, yet dont receive the recognition the newbie got....it will definitely incite frustration. However, they can't take it up to their executive, so they turn to the weakling. It's sad, but it's not entirely their fault. The environment they are in is toxic, and people in power, a majority of which are men, exploit it. I think it's unfair to ask a woman to always take the moral high ground, it's actually impossible, and actually have men be accountable for their actions.
Exactly! Males and females alike have the potential to be nice and rather mean. But, I find it extremely toxic that career women in yaoi are portrayed as just rather mean, or bullies. I had a 'friend' who just didn't like me, and like yours, everything I did set her off. So we broke it off, but that was one out of the countless other friends i've made.
This was hard to digest, but you're right. People can commit atrocities, history has paid witness to it. I mean, in the past couple months we've had 3-month olds, 5-month olds, and just recently 5 year olds getting raped. And quite honestly, I hope those 4 men get charged for their crime, and are serving in jail.
As for my post, I just don't want career women being always portrayed as this petty person. Clearly, in your case, men are likely to commit such acts, so why not have that be the case. You get me? I hate women being used as means to represent the 'evil' one in life, that's horrible.
I don't think gender has anything to do with it. I was bullied in school and some of them ended up in the same class as me in college. To me they were cruel to my face. Funny enough, I realized that they even spoke badly about their friends when they weren't around.
How often do you guys come across women who are that petty in offices? Yoai makes it seem like it's a rather common occurrence.
I'll be honest, I work in a male dominant industry, and w/o a doubt, women have it tough. Often, we as women, the minority, are put in this position of representing our sex (it's the same for persons of asian decent, african decent, indian decent etc.) If someone screwed up, it is indicative of a woman's capability, vs. that individual's capability. This climate really puts women under immense pressure, and we become prone to anger, and depression.
HOWEVER, I have never seen women behaving this petty for a MAN. If anything, i'll admit we're petty when it comes to our work and lifestyle. Not having much support, we become competitive when other women or men encroach in our space, we take it as a personal attack to our security. --> btw, this is getting better, especially with more awareness and protests towards gender equality.
On a final note, this is based on my experiences, i.e interacting/ conversations with colleagues, friends, and strangers. I don't think this should be a surprise, but women aren't always thinking about guys or how to get in their pants. Like our counterparts, we think about our future, where our next meal will come from, savings, staying happy, how better to support oneself and family etc.
Wow, this turned out quiet long, sorry guys. But, I feel just done attacking women for trying to do the best they can for themselves. Idk, you feel me?