Im 16, i started getting self conscious of my nose too, around middle school. Thought the exact same thing you did, my nose has a stupid little hump in the middle of my bridge.. But you can pull it off, confidence is really attractive, you already scored a lover as well! Woo them my friend.
But i you really do want a new nose for yourself, no shame in that either. He might be overreacting, have a seat and chat with him. //he probs really likes your nose who n o s e//
In my opinion, I truly believe that you should do what you want to do. Dating for 6 years, all that time and effort and nurture you put in to this relationship alongside your boyfriend is truly spectacular and I believe that if you struggled with being self conscious of your nose for 9 years, than you should do it, it's your body and your boyfriend probably wants to be told why you want to do it and proabbly wants nore of the context behind it. He probably feels confused. I hope everything goes well and this helped at least a bit.
*hoped it helped a bit
He’s seen and love the same face for 6 years, so he’s probably not ready to see the person he loves suddenly change. Plus, he could also be afraid of the side affects of plastic surgery and what it could do to you. I think you should listen to him because if he’s going so far as to threaten to break up with you for it, he must be worried about something deep down.
Have you asked him why he's so against it?Maybe he's worried about you and the silent treatment along with the threats are his way of trying to stop you without actually going through with the break up.If he's against it because of the change in your appearance then I'd say that you should do what's best for you,if he's so immature to dump you over that,he's not worth it.There is also the case of you being insecure without a reason (your nose not being as bad as you think) and he sees that so he wants you to love yourself?
I say, go for it girl. It's your body, your face. What you want to do is totally up to you. I just think that he needs to be more open minded about this thing bec it's not his place to get mad abt it even if he's your bf. Y'all need to talk it out. goodluck!!!!
Changing your appearance is a pretty big decision and it is often because one dislikes who they are and think changing their appearance changes the person, perhaps your bf is disappointed that you find such fault with yourself? My friend had his nose done and regretted it, so think carefully, it cannot be changed back. That being said, I had eye surgery (to correct my vision) and am happy with it, but it was the scariest day of my life. If you are truly unhappy with your nose and your bf still won’t speak to you, perhaps it is because he loves you as you are and is distressed that you don’t love yourself the same?
If you still want to go ahead, research your doc thoroughly- then go with what feels best for you.
Coming from a non professional point of view - do what you want to do. If this has been your goal since you were a kid and you have saved enough money for it then do it - it's not like you're asking for his money to do the nose job and luckily you're not married yet. Yeah 6 years seems like a long time but if you think about it people married for 50 years and still end up with a divorce because they want to find their own happiness... but I say try talking to your boyfriend one more time and see if he's willing to communicate and talk things out rather than being a brat about it - who knows... maybe he's insecure you're going to end up with someone better than him after your nose job... not the best advice but just a thought... ps... please research your surgeon before agreeing to go under the knife... there's been too many sad cases of ppl regretting their decision because the surgeon had no idea what they were doing...whatever your decision is I wish you all the best!
you should have talk with your boyfriend about why he is so against it. you've been together for a long time and then suddenly thinking of rhinoplasty, maybe, it made him think that what he's doing (assuring that you feel loved) is not enough. that's my opinion though. save the money but don't make a hasty decision of plastic surgery without going 100% and doubts with it. the money can be used if you are 100% of your decision or for something more important.
also, you should be proud of him that he didn't want you to alter your real face since it is the face that he loved. not the aesthetic face that you wished to have
Usually people who go for it once, go for it again in the future. It's a lot of money that could be used on other things, and maybe he's worried about that.
Have you talked to him about hating your nose before? How does he feel about the subject. If you been thinking about this sense you were 12, you might have brought it up before. has he always been agents it? why?
If he might brake up with you after 6 years just because of you nose changing and he just looking on the out yet not the out-side does he really love you?
6 years isn't something that you just throw it away, then you want to go for a lifetime change and it is not a decision you can ignore. why not asking for a professional help, it worths. there must be something very difficult to accept for him that he says he will break up with you. you haven't save up from your life to regret it in future .
Shut the fuck up. Don't post this story here. You can have a sex change for all I care.
My personal opinion is that you should do what makes you happy. You've wanted your nose job longer than you've known your boyfriend. I understand you two probably love each other a lot, but I think you should put your happiness above the rest, you might not be with him in the future and if he really does love you for who you are, it won't matter in the end. That's just my opinion though ٩(๑❛ᴗ❛๑)۶
My mom had her nose done a couple of years ago and her husband of more than a decade was totally fine with it. She had it done when she’s already settled and all, so she has no issues with the money. Her doctor also happens to be her friend so she’s confident about the whole thing. She’s happy so he’s happy ╮(￣▽￣)╭ (‘happy wife, happy life’). But the thing is from then on she has to be extremely careful not to accidentally bump into something or nose wrecked ┑(￣Д ￣)┍
If you’ve considered everything (i.e., doctor, facility, side effects, finances), try explaining it to your bf once again in detail. Like what some of the others said, he might be worried about the effects of the nose job for you. In the end, go for what makes you happy. (=・ω・=)
(nose or bf hahahahahaha) (￣∇￣")
First of all if someone loves you for who you are and how you look now, hold on to that person.
A nose job is a silly superficial procedure which wont be there for you to support you and love you.
Ask yourself is a superficial procedure really worth the love of your boyfriend? Who has been there for you for 6 years?
And there are many many many complications of a nose job which effect your life... Do you want to risk a procedure like that ?
Everyone is born different and we should embrace it unless it's causing physical handicap.
Honestly, a nose job is not worth doing to lose an actual relationship with someone who loves you as you are.
Try this~
Ask the people closest to you to tell you if there's something wrong with your nose. Whether it actually needs changing.
Ask a group of impartial people. Or somewhere online with neutral non troll people, ask them whether they find something wrong with your face.
See, I'll tell you from personal experience that most of the times we obsess about our looks because we see people around us., On TV, etc and we compare and start finding problems with our looks.
What I understand is that your boyfriend find no problem but he doesn't see why you want to change a perfectly normal thing. To him it might be that you would get tired of him too because you want something perfect. Or like others. It shows about how far will you go to not accept something normal and want something perfect. He might be thinking you might dump him too because you don't like how it is, just like your nose.
Damn... Plastic surgery... I have parts of me I wish I could change too, but plastic surgery? Go for it if you really want to, but please be safe and find a good doctor!
Is he paying for it? NO
who gives a shit what he thinks, lmao
not his body, not his money, and you are NOT his property
Do what makes YOU happy, not no man
I'm going to post this anonymously because I'm nervous of putting a face to the question. So here it goes, I am a 21 year old women who has hated her nose and talked about getting plastic surgery since I was 12. I have recently saved enough money and have contacted a doctor to give me a rhinoplasty. I told my boyfriend of almost 6 years (our anniversary is the 17th of this month) that I am seriously going to do it, and hes given me the silent treatment and cold shoulder since I've told him. He also said he might break up with me because of it. So my question is, do you think that's fair? I would think that after 6 years of being together that our love is past appearances. I'm a bit offended that he'd break up with me over my face slightly changing. I'm still the same person. I feel terrible that the person I love most can't support me and would even go as far as dumping me. And I can't help but wonder if he's right. What do you think?