do you think relationships in yaoi or just bl are the same as game relationships irl?

Why?

But there is tho

Girly uke spotted!!

There is no such thing as "uke" in real life. Relationships, as portrayed in BL, are largely unrealistic.

but there r people who are only passive..

That doesn't dictate how someone looks or acts in their day to day life though. Do you not think such definitions are quite regressive and homophobic?

it made me wonder how can you read manga and still be familiar of it... even if it's accuracy comes in varying degrees, it still reflects japanese gay culture.

I know, but I'm sure they don't commonly refer to themselves as "uke."

If such terms are reflective of current Japanese culture, and not just used for fictional manga tropes than that seems pretty sad. It's although people who identify as gay can't just be treated as normal, boring people and have to conform to these regressive stereotypes. The idea that a man must appear vulnerable, feminine, short etc just because of how he likes sex is quite odd, and reminds me a little of the early 20th century stereotypes where gay men were portrayed as "camp" or gay women were viewed as masculine on things like tv and films, you would have expected the world to have moved on from that.

BL comics are predominately written by heterosexual females, for heterosexual females. I wasn't aware that they, having partaken in it themselves, were so well versed in gay culture.

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This is sarcasm.

ah, don't leave out how i said "varying degrees". some minimal (to the point of bullshit LOL) and some had a good portrayal. and there's one true to life BL manga too.
but majorly, BL came from the perspective of women and it is tailored for women readership. but it still reflects the way they generally view things. other countries may view japan or east asia as "regressive" since it doesn't conform to their own but it's still basically just a difference of culture/way of thinking. i've talked to a lot of readers (especially caucasian ones) and they say the same thing as you.
also, i've read plenty of manga and im not really choosy what i pick to read and girly uke is not as common as you guys think.

really why?

ε=ε=(ノ≧∇≦)ノ lol. to be clear, i'm not disagreeing with you i'm talking about the culture being reflected on them, not the technicalities of gay sex.

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i dont think there's any sort of relationship like in yaoi in irl// but there are so many of my friends thinking that every gay relationship is like that and it makes me question if there actually is something like that but ofc not