i'm surprised. i feel like it's normally the seme who gets married and the uke is the one ...

You can read Kozure Ookami , the uke also leaves seme to get married

http://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/hana_no_miyako_de/

There's also this one. There's plenty of manga where the uke leaves the seme to get married, u know.

thank you guys! i just have it in my head that the seme's the one married off

I forgot I ever read that manga. It reopened my wound. TT^TT