HELP(non manga)

Romid April 10, 2018 5:41 am

So i am very stressed because of this problem and i wish someone would help me
This guy i had just started to go out is actually scaring me
I am so scared of him that i can’t sleep at night
It is not like our relation is anything but it’s like he is very possessive and i get a very bad fella from like
It wasn’t like this when we started but now he just keeps texting
Me the whole day and altho he says he cares about my comfort level but i feel very scared around him
How do i stop without hurting myself or him
Please help!

Responses
    I Went From Chan To Sama April 10, 2018 6:04 am

    Dump him
    Give him a complement sandwich.
    Tell him he's an amazing guy, but that you don't think it's working out, and that he deserves someone better, that will truely cherish him, because he's so amazing.
    Then run like hell and don't look back

    ❀Kαηαdє April 10, 2018 6:08 am

    I suggest you to find what is his motive.If he loves you then you should accept him but try to warn him not to bother you so much that you get creep.If he doesn't love you....try to discuss with your best friends and maybe your family.If things get worse,you really should call the police.Yes,I know love is precious but don't you think your life is more precious? ╥﹏╥

    Romid April 10, 2018 6:20 am
    Dump himGive him a complement sandwich. Tell him he's an amazing guy, but that you don't think it's working out, and that he deserves someone better, that will truely cherish him, because he's so amazing. Then ... I Went From Chan To Sama

    How?
    What do I say
    He’ll become mad if a actually break things off like that

    Romid April 10, 2018 6:20 am
    I suggest you to find what is his motive.If he loves you then you should accept him but try to warn him not to bother you so much that you get creep.If he doesn't love you....try to discuss with your best frien... ❀Kαηαdє

    How do you suggest I find his motives?

    missidiot April 10, 2018 6:23 am

    Do you feel like he'll react negatively and in a way that will harm you i he doesn't reject you? if so, maybe let your family and friends know so you'll have support in case if his possessive behavior escalates. Please let him know that you are unable to be with him in a manner that you think will avoid aggravating him. Your safety and happiness comes first!! Trust yourself: your instinct are telling you to be afraid, it's not without reasons. Yu deserve to be happy. It's better to end an unhealthy relationship early before both parties become much too invested especially with a person who seems to have obsessive tendencies. If he says he cares about your comfort level he should understand. Please stay safe, sending good wishes and support<3<3feel free to message if you need someone to talk to!!

    S April 10, 2018 6:26 am

    Hmm why dont you just simply ask 'why are you being like this' or 'what happened you never did this before' and if he mad doesnt it mean your relationship wont last long?

    Anon April 10, 2018 7:09 am

    First of all, if I’m going to be quite frank, but it is my opinion, if you’re scared of him in any way, like at all, I think that’s a serious red flag. I mean unless the way you are saying is that you are scared of him being hurt or you’re relationship is scaring you, in which case I’m sorry. But I seriously value comfortality in a relationship, if you aren’t comfortable to be near him, or in expressing your feelings, then you’ll only be worried and stressed about everything and I don’t believe a relationship should have so much worry. Especially in the early honeymoon stage, where everything should be fun and loose.
    Maybe he has just gotten more possessive because he’s jealous of something? Or maybe he just likes you to where he wants total conformation? Either way my friend, you need to find out where this possessiveness is coming from, in person. And if you’re scared he’ll do anything, do it in a public place. If you don’t like the answer, break up with him. Just tell him the truth honestly, maybe he just didn’t realize it and will back off. Theyre might be so many reasons, cause many things stroll through a persons mind. But for me, if I’m uncomfortable, especially to the point of where I’m scared of him, I would’ve broken up with him already. But, good luck in your relationship endeavors, hope all goes well! ヾ(❀╹◡╹)ノ~

    bimblefrog April 10, 2018 7:15 am

    please confide in someone you know has your back and also has power (i.e. your mom/dad, your favorite school counselor, a teacher you trust that you've felt connected to) as soon as possible. don't face this alone!
    listen to your intuition bb. it sounds like he's the kind of dude that would blow up in your face if you did something against his wishes. I'm so sorry you're going through this :(
    basically:
    1. find people who'd have your back
    2. break it off asap; the people from #1 will probably have better advice than we can give you since they know you personally and are also a bit older.

    Romid April 10, 2018 7:33 am

    Thank you so much everyone for your advice
    I have actually texted him saying i want to break it off but he keeps on trying to persuade me to not
    I am trying altho he is hell bent on not letting go
    But lets see
    Thank you all

    Anonymous April 10, 2018 11:10 am
    Thank you so much everyone for your adviceI have actually texted him saying i want to break it off but he keeps on trying to persuade me to notI am trying altho he is hell bent on not letting goBut lets seeThan... Romid

    don't give in!! good luck, and bravo.

    Romid April 10, 2018 2:24 pm

    Thank you all
    Update-
    He threw a fit and is saying to be friends with him
    I altho don’t want it but he just keeps throwing a fit
    And now i’m trying my best to finish this of
    I confined with my parents on the advice and they supported me and told me to cut off al ties
    Thank you so much
    So greatful always