I don't even understand why the seme gets so much hate here. He was sacrificing a lot of his feelings just to make Kirishima feels comfortable. Granted I understand why he wanted to distance himself from him because there is so much that a person can take.
Exactly, to be told that a gay relationship is barren and he was so hurt that he confessed. Then Kirishima is guilty and forces his apology on him, and he decided to keep the status quo and stay friends despite his feelings just to make Kirishima comfortable. You got what you wanted Kiri so what now. Toudou has been in an unrequited love for ages and from his p.o.v your just trying to date him to save your friendship, which he has given you again so what would be the sign that says you still want to date him?? He has a right to move on romantically and he doesn't have to discuss that with anyone.
Yeah, I think the part where hits me the most is the fact that he has been in love with him for 12 years but never force his feelings on Kirishima. He silently understands that it's almost impossible for his feelings to be returned. Kirishima wanting to date him just for him to stay by his side imo is very selfish despite knowing Todou's feeling for him. I can recall a lot of mangas with seme that would take that advantage to manipulate the uke when in the situation. But Todou didn't do that.
This! Exactly this is the reason why I'm siding with him. In most yaoi situations the uke would have been r*ped and they would be dating right now but he's so respectful of the uke orientation and of his own feelings and worth. Him not wanted to date unless both of their feelings are mutual is the right way to do it or they'll end up dating and he'll be anxious about when the uke will leave him for a woman or if he even likes him at all.
I agree with the seme and understand his reasoning, but if this was any other story or even real life the seme wouldn't be getting this much hate.