feeling betrayed

I've had to deal with a very painful betrayal myself lately (though mine had nothing to do with romance it's essentially the same) I know that it goes in stages 1) Regret: you might regret trusting those people from the start or you might blame yourself for what happened 2) Saddness: every single thing that will remind you of those people will be painful and very very difficult to endure 3) Questioning: you will wonder why they would doe something so horrible to you in the first place 4) Anger: that constant questioning will eventually lead to extreme anger towards both people

These stages are some of the most difficult to deal with right next to the stages of grief.  The best thing to do is to find a place you feel safe and hang out with some other friends. The way to help you gloss over these feelings as best as possible is to distract yourself with something. Study, play video games, our what I found worked the best was to find a really long series on Netflix or watch asuper long anime that will litterally take up weeks of your time. This will distract you and give you time to recover. But please don't be stupid like me and hurt yourself. If you need to complain every day about it to friends and family then hell you do that! This pain will take months to deminish even the tiniest (my situation happened inn October and I'm still struggling) just surround yourself with possitive people and things and it will get better. You will find people who care much more about what happens to you then they will ever. Stay strong.

Oh God! I'm really sorry.
I just can't understand. If you don't like a person anymore, tell him/her properly why you can't date her anymore and have a peaceful breakup. Why cheating? My elder sister was suicidal for about a month cause her bf cheated on her. My mom couldn't take it anymore and slapped my sis and said,"Why are you wasting your life on a trash like him? We all love you so start anew."

Please be strong and happy! Your attention, sadness and tears are too precious to waste on them!

It's just like this is straight out of a drama...I guess the next part should be you getting your revenge

Dump his ass. You don't need him and he doesn't deserve you. Also, your best friend should've known that this was wrong. Leave them and meet new, trustworthy and nice people. OR you could also approach them and talk to them to solve this problem.

Are you positive it wasn't a misunderstanding? I'm sorry, your English doesn't make it clear what exactly you saw besides them in the house together. Best of luck, regardless. Also don't take advice about getting revenge, you'll just be as bad as they are in the end. It's not healthy.

Don't feel pathetic, be mad, lament, be depressed but remember to stand up. Dump his F8king ass, he doesn't deserve you, and that friend? cut all you connections to her because she's not worth it. They can both rot in hell for all I care but be strong don't let this challenge bring you down. Be brave it may be a hard thing to do but I know you can do it :) You still have friends and maybe just maybe there is are still people who deserve you more that them :

Reading this made me angry. Don't feel pathetic because the only one's here who should feel pathetic are your "friend" and hopefully now ex-boyfriend. I'm sure you are a wonderful and beautiful girl so don't waste your time on someone who will cheat on you or on a friend who backstabs you like that. Live a happy life and prove to them that you don't need them :)

We had the same experience. I also shared it with mangago and people gave me their advices and I think it's time for me to do the same. You should clear out any misunderstanding if there's any and if it's not a misunderstanding, it's okay to cry. You can't help it if the two person that you trust the most betrayed you. You should definitely dump him. And you shouldn't get revenge even if it seems like the right thing to do. Getting revenge won't fix the past. It already happened. And lastly, let time heal your wound in your heart. Although sometimes you can't avoid the pain in your heart when you see the two of them together smiling happily while you're there alone. Don't let that incident with your jerk bf and friend keep you from falling in love again. It just means that fate is pushing you to the right path for you to find your right partner.

I hope my advice was of use. It's been 2 weeks since I broke up with my bf and I already moved on.

It happened to soneone I know. The difference is they are already married with 2 kids. When the wife came home from business trip, she caught the husband slept with her best friend. It was chaotic. The husband is even planning to take the best friend as a second wife without the wife knowing anything.

If your bf cheated with her why do you even think she was your friend

I agree

Babe dont feel pathetic! They are assholes that deserve to rot in the deepest part of hell. Dump his mofo ass! Dump that stupid ass bitch of a friend! Treat yourself with a nice fucking hot bath, have a glass of wine, listen to music, go shopping and go meet new people! They don't deserve your tears, you are way way better without those toxic, cheating back stabbing bitches! You is strong! You is independent as fudge!

today is her bday and after clss ended she came and said lets go and i couldnt hold myself back i started crying andd said how it was like sleeping with your best friend bf and she just run away and i told the group the entire story .. after getting their support i feel better and you all guys thank you for yours concerns .. i am so happy that the weekends starts tomorrow and until monday i dont have to see her face.. actually i dont want to see both of their faces they are just out of my life. i told my sister everything after returning home and her cursing mode is still on. i think that elder sis can be adorable at times...i am feeling a little better and watching card captor sakura... once again thank you for concerns my moe girls

It's good that you're feeling better, get some rest and have lots and lots of fun during the weekend!

(づ￣ ³￣)づ

Worst feeling i can imagine so far .. bcs you got hit by twice at same time .. so it's ok why ? isn't it better than being with him and he is cheating without you knowing ? plus we can't call her " Friend " bcs that bitch agreed to do that with "YOUR BF" So i know my suggestion kinda dumb ,but your feeling will go by time important thing is to forget those shitty characters and start clean enjoy your life don't make yourself in need to them so make yourself a cup of tea and enjoy some yaoi stuff -not my field so i can't recommend high quality stuff :"D - and hope you a better life without any new shitty events like that again :)