Same. It's been 10 years for me, and even if we've both moved on, I can't help regretting some of my actions.
I refuse to regret it is a burden that is un-needed, saying that I'm sorry that you feel like this, write it all in a letter then burn it watch it til the flames die and tell yourself with the dying flame dies your regret, it's something I do to overcome sadness and depression I hope you feel better soon much love and light to you
I sincerely appreciate the advice, though it is advice I have already tried. I didn't lose my lover to a break up, she died rather suddenly. We had a minor fight over something petty the evening before she died. So, she stayed out late and slept on the couch. That is where I found her body the next morning. I learned a hard lesson right there and then. I can't tell her how much I loved her, how beautiful she was to me, how proud I was to be her lover, none of it, not anymore. What I can do is make sure that kind of regret is something I will never feel again. I tell anyone close to me everything I am thinking or feeling. Good, bad or indifferent. And if there are hard feelings or arguments, they are cleared up or at least called a truce to before I sleep. I never want to wake up that way again.
I'm so sorry for your loss, yeah that makes it a whole different thing, I apologise
Oh no, please don't apologize. Your reply and advice were given with the best of intentions. You have nothing to apologize for. Thank you for your kind words. Time has softened the edges of the pain. Although I do find that I think of her often, now it is only with warmth and fondness. The end of one thing always means the beginning of something else. Her loss taught me many lessons about life and how I live it now. Ironically, it was only after losing her and learning those lessons that I have been able to live happily. The saddest moment of my life taught me how to be happy. If that isn't irony I don't know what is.
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I relate a lot to the second story. I lost someone I loved dearly and there were many things I had left unsaid. Whether it was anger, cowardice or just willful ignorance, it doesn't really matter what kept me silent. I regret that so very much, even now, twenty five years later. What I learned was that regret hurts so much more than rejection or a petty squabble. I have, for twenty five years, never let an opportunity pass to speak the words in my heart and on my mind, especially to those I love. We often think, "They must know how I feel, right?" Trust me, you need to say it out loud. Not just for their peace of mind, but for your own as well. Even if you'll be rejected or if your feelings are unsure, communicate your thoughts and feelings. My feelings have been rejected, though, I don't really remember the particulars of those instances. My regret, however, is as painful today as it was so many years ago. You get over rejection, you never get over regret.