HELP ME FIND THIS! PLEASE!!!!

I'm looking for a manga I once read where the female protagonist wanted to be treated like a girl, but her partner for an arranged marriage shows up and since, in their village the traditional gender roles are reversed, he acts like a housewife and treats her like his lord, master and husband. lol. I remember that it wasn't a Japanese manga, I think it was Chinese. Also, she had shoulder-length hair, and his was long and ebony. She gets a punk (sort of) boyfriend whose mother was from the same village as hers and was called a wimp for being girly. lolx2. Also, she eventually came to her senses and fights for her arranged spouse, whose mother is the village chief and whose father, as it turns out is an exiled(?), imprisoned psyco that escapes and temporarily overthows the local government. His mom is a red-head with red eyes and his dad had black hair like him as a kid, but either bleached and/or dyed it or whatever, because its silver/white now. He also has red eyes. So help me find this gem, please!!!!