Loving Yourself

I believe that the people who loves you will show you how to love yourself and vice versa. You don't have to love yourself in order to fall inlove since some love stories start in broken pieces.


But one should becareful since one's negativity may drain their human person mentally over time and niether is at fault since there are many factors involved in that. Falling out of love is a quiet and most painful thing.

for me it's true that u should learn to love yourself first before u learn to love the other (︶︿︶). Luv yourself can start from the smallest things like dress up nicely, make up, exercise,talk to people whom u interested in without forcing yourself to have the same interest as them.. anything that make u feel better once u put afford to do. Some people nowaday have a lot of people around them, they treat him/her well but himself/herself finds it still lack of something, therefore they cant be fully satisfied with things （￣へ￣） not everyone can do it though ╮(￣▽￣)╭

Personally, I think you don't need to sacrifice yourself to show affection. You don't need an achievement to verify your affection. Lacking something in yourself won't void your affection. And if it's damaging you, then you are doing it wrong.

People desire comfort and affection at some point in their life. It is natural to seek comfort when you feel sad. It helps you feel better. It is wrong if you are damaging other people to relieve yourself. That isn't selfish but ignorant.

As a person who broke up with someone partly due to this, I think it is just better to be someone with self-confidence when you are in a relationship. In my experience I could not break down my walls and be vulnerable with my ex due to my lack of self-confidence. It might be possible to fall in love with another person when its hard to do it for yourself but I was not able to. But my experience only speaks for myself not for anyone else. But one thing I can tell you is that if a person can accept themselves, they are much more likely to be in a healthier relationship.
Personally I think it is dangerous to be in a relationship where you seek validation for yourself from another person. If that relationship ends in any way it would break any self-confidence one might have built up from that relationship and may end up with an even worse image of yourself. That's why I think it is always important to improve yourself. If you don't love something about yourself, then maybe self evaluate and see how you can improve yourself. I am currently in this process. So I am not seeking any relationship until I get to a certain point where I can be proud of myself.

in going in and going out of the relationship, it is very important to leave some love for yourself in order for it to work because it affects your relationship.