Bullies in Real Life

yoru November 2, 2017 5:41 am

Hey! I've been wondering, is it "normal" in your country to have bullies in school? I've read manga about bullies and we cannot avoid the fact that sometimes, the author tries to depict the real life situation in his/her manga. Well, as a matter of fact, I'm a Malaysian and in my country it can be considered as a "rare sight" to see bullies in school though the statistics about bully keeps increasing. I won't deny that I'm also one of the victims of the bully. I've been bullied verbally and physically till the fact i had the urge to commit suicide but fortunately, I'm still alive. So, just how "normal" in your country when it comes to bully? If you are one of the victim like me and would like to share a few of your thoughts, please do share. I would love to listen to your story.

Responses
    nico November 2, 2017 5:55 am

    well, physical abuse in bullying it's pretty weird in my country, but bullying is still an issues. i mostly suffer a psychological abuse more than anything else, my classmates, mostly girls, told me that i was weird and ugly, and i never thought of commit suicide during that time, but it was a big cause of my depressive disorder

    i hate school and i still hate it...

    MyUsername November 2, 2017 5:56 am

    Yes, it's very normal. I was bullied, only verbally, because I do aikido and kickboxing, so they knew I could kick their asses if they touch me. And the teachers didn't care until someone punch the other (my friend was bullied because she was fat and her teacher said "Well, why don't you try to be skinny?) I'm sorry for you being physically bullied, I imagine how hard it was for you.
    I got depressed and had urge to kill myself, but haven't tried anything like this.
    It was hard, I used to thought anyone laughing it was because of me (even when it wasn't) and even now I can't really talk about it. Sometime ago, I couldn't even read manga with this subject, now I think I'm better since I read some.
    But this kind of help me to not care about what the others think of me. If they think I'm nerd, ugly or just weird. I am myself and I don't give a fuck (sorry for the word) to other others think. Of course, I like to be praised, but someone don't like me, I honestly don't care.
    And if someone who is being bullied read this, please stay strong, it will be over, believe me. You may think no one will like you, you may think it's too hard and I know it is, but hang on. It will come the day where you will have real friend that will cherish your friendship and people will respect you. Stay Strong and focus on your hobbies and what you like do. And in strdies too.

    Right in the kokoro November 2, 2017 5:57 am

    It's not something people like, bhut it occurs more than people know.

    MyUsername November 2, 2017 5:59 am
    Yes, it's very normal. I was bullied, only verbally, because I do aikido and kickboxing, so they knew I could kick their asses if they touch me. And the teachers didn't care until someone punch the other (my fr... MyUsername

    *I meant "in studies too" in the last line, sorry for the bad typo

    Anonymous November 2, 2017 6:04 am

    Since I'm gay I get bullied constantly. In my school it's rare to not be the kid jumped or seeing other people fighting. It's sickening and it shouldn't be a thing.

    Yandere chan November 2, 2017 6:50 am

    Bullying is shit should not be happen .it disgust me one person will keep bullying the other and think and feel he is superior and popular and laugh from the other students and not to be done anything about it by his friends gave him more encouragement.children think its fun without thinking what that sweet soul is going through. You can get bullied for almost anything be it you are poor,you are shy or diffrent. A girl tried to bully me as i dont speak much so she thought i wont say anything.she tries to put chewing gum on my hair but i get the gist of it and slaped that bitch. she cried and i got scolded .but she never tried that shit nor her giggly bitches tsk tsk.i still dont like them .there arebthe case where children even commit suicide.and its so sad..be it elementry kid or a college student bullying happen . Its pathetic and sad.

    jules November 2, 2017 8:20 am

    I got bullied everyday when i was in highschool because im an overweight girl. And my case is a bit weird, I got bullied by a gay flamboyant kid and his girly gang. It's just so weird. Every day he constantly harassing me and verbal abuse me and steal my stuff, throw it everywhere around school, and he even make me as a "dare" challange to other kids. Some of them will aproach me and asked me like, can i see your hand? and when i show them my hand, he spit on to it. It's petty stuff like that. So yeah, it happens and i am one of the survivor of highschool bullies.

    SimplyTrash November 2, 2017 8:55 am

    (Hye Malaysian fellow!)

    I kind of agree with your opinion, especially about the statistic of bully in Malaysia. Anyway, I was a victim of bully myself (both verbally and uhm physically(?)) but I never aware I was one (eventhough if I watched any movies about bully I would yell "That's a bully!", talking about this Malay proverb; Kuman di seberang laut nampak, gajah di depan mata tak nampak) until one day I learnt that bully comes in many form. The way I was bullied weren't the same as what media performs therefore I couldn't relate myself with the situation. One of the guesses I can tell the reason why I used to not see myself being bullied is maybe because I tried to see kindness upon every of individual therefore I was in denial that a person within my surrounding (classmates, roommates, friends(?)) can be a bully. I don't know if my past self was an innocent girl or simply a coward. ╮( ̄▽ ̄)╭

    SimplyTrash November 2, 2017 9:00 am
    Yes, it's very normal. I was bullied, only verbally, because I do aikido and kickboxing, so they knew I could kick their asses if they touch me. And the teachers didn't care until someone punch the other (my fr... MyUsername

    you're a sweet person, bless you~

    Anonymous November 2, 2017 9:45 am

    i was believed when I was in grade school, sure that i was also but a kid that time and so was the one who bully but that experience greatly affect my personality today

    gethyped November 2, 2017 12:19 pm

    It isn't normal in my school to see bullies ever. But I think different schools have different cultures. So I think that explains it. Personally, I've never been physically bullied by anyone in the school and I've never seen anyone being bullied in my previous schools as well. I'm not sure about other schools but there are a lot of hooligans and stuff in other schools (or so I heard).

    MyUsername November 2, 2017 5:17 pm
    you're a sweet person, bless you~ SimplyTrash

    I can't really tell if you are being sarcastic...

    Anonymous November 2, 2017 5:35 pm

    In my country i dont think there are bullied !!! I Never got bullied and never saw one getting bullied and dont know any bullies and i have a lot of overweight friends and none of them got bullied so i guess people actions are diffrent with the difrence of their religion and countries and culture cuz i have read so much bulling act that lead to suicide!!! And all in countries like US japan ....

    Anonymous November 2, 2017 6:18 pm

    I've fortunately never experienced bullying nor seen anyone experience it all through school, college and now uni. I guess it doesn't really matter on the country as asshole people are everywhere but I can say that bullying stats in my country are very low but cyber bullying is a real thing here. I think it's around 35%.

    SimplyTrash November 2, 2017 7:21 pm
    I can't really tell if you are being sarcastic... MyUsername

    lol I was not, just bear in your mind only asshole joke at this subject. I may trash, but only yaoi trash ╮( ̄▽ ̄)╭

    MyUsername November 3, 2017 3:09 am
    lol I was not, just bear in your mind only asshole joke at this subject. I may trash, but only yaoi trash ╮( ̄▽ ̄)╭ SimplyTrash

    Oh, right, sorry. Sometimes people can be so mean that I didn't know.
    In this case, thanks a lot, you are the sweet one hereヾ(❀╹◡╹)ノ~

    Kom November 3, 2017 9:23 am

    I've seen people get bullied but I've always been the type to try and stick up for them. I Haven't been bullied much but that's only because it's very hard to get under my skin. I've had people try to bully me but they always end up giving up because the insults never work.