Is rape in yaoi ever ok?

Hey guys, ive been noticing a lot of people in the comments arguing this issue so i figured i would put my two cents in.
you can give consent initially and then revoke it at anytime. After you say stop anything that happens afterward is without your consent and is legally considered rape. this is no longer an issue in consensual bdsm relationships however as saying no or stop may not always mean a desire to actually stop sex. thats why they have previously arranged safe words. but in a bdsm relationship if you say the safe word but then sex continues it would be considered rape.

with that being said, rape themes are pervasive in yaoi as a genre and in this context it can be seen as acceptable because we the reader know that when they uke is saying stop they don't actually want to. I think i read once that its added because of a female desire to loose control during sex. one of the things that makes it difficult for many women to orgasm is because of their inability to relax into the situation. the rape in yaoi is most often away of getting the uke who is also unable to relax into pleasure to accept it and climax. Also has to do with our cavewoman brain, we like a strong male specimen able to "have his way way with us".

anyway sorry for the long post but i wanted to make it clear that it's okay to ship a fantasy couple even with elements of rape in the story and still denounce rape culture in real life. Nobody should have to feel guilty for enjoying the story, just make sure to support the real women and men that are victims of assault.

if anyone has any questions or wants to debate the issue with me feel free to message me.