Not really a good depiction of consensual BDSM

KuroOkami October 22, 2017 6:41 am

1. The seme asked for and got the uke's "consent" while he was shit-faced drunk. Drunk people are not in the proper state of mind to give consent, especially not to something like BDSM. Any decent Dom (or person really) would not accept that as consent, and wait until the other was awake and sober to properly discuss things.

2. The seme put the uke in stocks while he was un-freaking-conscious. You can't consent to something while unconscious, period, full-stop, end of story.

3. It's proper BDSM protocol to discuss what will happen during a scene BEFORE the actual scene. That way you both know and are a-okay with what you're about to do before you actually do it. You don't just chain someone up and force an enema on them without discussion beforehand. It's obvious the uke was not comfortable with the enema, and he actually asked the seme to stop. The seme not only did NOT stop, he shoved a ball gag into the uke's mouth and carried on his merry way. Big no-no.

4. That brings me to my final grievance. Safe. Words. They exist. They're necessary. They're especially necessary when someone is new to BDSM, or trying something they've never done before--both which apply to the uke.

Now I know this a manga, fantasy, obviously not real life, etc. Rape and non-consent are rampant in yaoi manga, and that's chill and just how it is. But I did feel the need to point out to those with less knowledge on the subject that this is not a good depiction of actual, consensual BDSM. Remember the RACK acronym: Risk Aware Consensual Kink.

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