Out of all the cliches I’ve read, this one is obvious, you like him. I’m not gonna go into deep detail, but there must have been some kind of sexual tension between you two, or romantic interest...
Black or white, doesn't matter, just get yourself a boyfriend who loves and cherishes you for who you are. It's ok to be a bit envious of him but just get over that and get a guy so that you can also show off too. If you're not ready for a relationship then you don't have to get a guy just for the sake of showing off or something, get a boyfriend because you like him and he loves you. Forget about colour, love is just blind, unless you just want a fling ;)
He isn't my type, so no I'm not into him.
Same. I'm always being rejected by girls.xD but that's fine I guess, the right person will come, just focus on your goal, you wouldn't even notice he's there already. And it's okay to he jealous, but you NEED to stop it. Just tell yourself, "there's nothing to be jealous of. He's happy, and that's great for him." even if you don't feel genuinely happy, then keep telling yourself this and you might realize sooner that being jealous is not worth it :D
To be honest I didn't think of race very much until I tried dating. I realized how white men are desperatey sought after in the gay community and it's made me very bitter. Though I'm content with any ethnicity for a guy...It frustrates me that other people don't feel the same way or won't even try
Why can't you be happy for him? Because you're normal. You're lonely, stressed, tired, scared and heartbroken. Don't add more conflict to your emotions feeling guilty about being jealous. You can do both: be happy your friend got lucky AND be miserable because you didn't (yet). You'll get over it when you start feeling rewarded for your efforts. For now, fuck both of them. Let yourself have a pity party for a few days and then move on. You're not being selfish and he's not being a douche, it's just a FLEETING unfortunate moment. You're not obligated to be their page, if you trust your friendship you can be honest and tell him you're very unhappy about your situation and it's too hard to hang around them by yourself, maybe the boyfriend has a friend?? You never know when your life will turn into a yaoi lol. Don't say anything if you think it will hurt your relationship, just lick your wounds in private and get back on your feet. You'll need clarity and peace for school, don't worry too much about finding a partner. It's a fucking hassle anyway.
I forgot, maybe it's unrelated but why do you mean by "white men"? White as in fair skin? Is it slang for something I'm unaware of?
** what! I meant to say "what do you mean by blabah"
One too many drinks today
Ikr, people should become more open minded, if they did then it would be easier to find the right man or woman for themselves. Restricting oneself to certain conjectures just makes it harder to find the fated person.
I m a girl and fair skin.I think it shoudnt bother me but I like white gay men over any other races even my freinds are like that.so I think it is just natural and doesnt have anything to do with hate.
It's just the ramblings of a sad gay guy. Once I started trying to date guys I experienced a weird sort of racism where white gay men were considered the gold standard. If I listed my ethnicity the responses I got would drop significantly.
It's created a very warped view about race and ethnicity that I wish I didn't have. Gay people of even different ethnicities treat white men like a prize to be won. It all makes me very sad and not hopeful for finding someone im attracted to.
most white gays are trash tho
?ur a girl y does it matter if u like white gay dudes & better than others wtf
I get it, ramble on until you feel better. I'm sorry I can't add anything of value to this issue. I haven't experienced any of this. I live in a relatively small city. There's no "gay scene" here, I've never heard of anyone rejecting anybody because of skin color, wtf. There are preferences, OBVIOUSLY, but it's more about looks in general, particular aesthetics.. aaand well I bet you know what else. Full disclosure, maybe I'm just being an unaware asshole because I'm attractive, but I'm pretty damn sure it's a good sign of a hefty pool of dicks to choose from if men in your hometown can be picky about the stupidest most unbelievably irrelevant crap like skin color. Right? Bright side? Did it work?
She might be pan...idk ╮(￣▽￣)╭
I just think it's a sad self-inflicted punishment to wipe out like half the menu lol
So many flavors around and she only likes creampuff, tee hee hee
Lmao Pansexuals get cheese cakes, puffs, pies, patooties, you name it
You're worried you won't find love, you are jealous your friend got it etc.. same everywhere. Also people tend to judge upon looks.. why are you in a rush? Give it time, focus on your studies and things like love come eventually . Try tinder or a dating app if your family is strict. Good luck with finding love and happiness
u sure have never been on grindr
if ur a gay dude^
My friend has been actively pursuing guys this last year, he is better looking tall, white and has a decent job.
I'm also gay but have been forced to live with family due to foolish mistakes on my part in education. It's my fault and I brought it upon myself. I'm going back to school for a degree that can actually get me a job and I'm happy to have a goal to work towards.
But when he showed off his boyfriend...I was really surprised at how I felt. I felt not joy for him. But this dark pit of jealousy. I didn't feel hate for him or anything but...I had successfully buried the sadness that I got from being rejected by men (especially white men) away and his announcement just made the wound bleed again.
Why can't I be happy for him?