Why is it worse that your rival is of the opposite gender? Wouldn't it be more painful, if you lost to someone of the same gender? Just like how frustrating it would be, if you crush chose your sister.
It depends on the person.
And from what I've seen women are usually more upset if rival is a man. It's how it is. Especially if you don't know beforehand that your partner is bisexual. In some cultures being LGBT is not accepted and therefore it's even worse. In ancient China, homosexuality was ok, if they were lovers, not if man would chose a man over his wife.
Some things are just the way they are even if they are not really logical.
But it's of course more painful if it's your cousin or best friend, you can't compare that to a random person.
If I found out my bf was cheating me with a man i would probably be more angy (especially if he didn't tell me he's bisexual) because that might mean that he's gay and that he never liked me the way i liked him, and used me as a convinient person at that moment.
i pretty sure a lot of gay people would feel if they partner cheated on them with a person of the opposite sex
and also many people act like this girl in this story does - they put all the blame on the lover or (in this case) just the "object" of affection who is completely innocent.
I see. Thanks for the explanation ヾ(❀╹◡╹)ﾉ~
Everybody has their own opinions and this is me speaking from my experience in dating women. If you think that it hurts less then by all means but to me it isn't like that.
I hear ya! Id be upset if its a dude (just cuz he didnt say he was bi or gay AND he didnt let me watch for my research for BL writing lol) Seriously though the thought of a girl could be worse if the girl has low self esteem/rival is younger/lil miss comparison issues. The worse is coming home and finding ya love in bed with a family member/best friend OUCH!!!! Its nice to hear what others have to say---I wish this would be picked up but gonna look for raws cuz this is a very interesting story even without smut.
Okay, yeah I get it. I understand what a huge slap on the face it is to find out that not only your partner was with or has feelings for someone else, it was a person of your opposite gender. But just because your partner seems to have done something unsightly, you do not get to treat someone else like that. Grow up and deal with it!