Exactly this. What bothers them isn’t that Hwayoung stopped doing BDSM — it’s that he’s still doing it, just not with them. He didn’t reject the lifestyle; he just chose to live it on his own terms, in an exclusive, emotionally grounded relationship with Gyuwon. And they can’t handle that.
They act like he’s turned his back on some community code, but in reality, he’s the only one actually honoring what kink is supposed to be about — boundaries, respect, consent. Meanwhile, they’re out here treating the scene like a social club where everyone owes each other access. It’s gross.
Honestly, it feels like they’re more upset about losing their influence over Hwayoung than anything else. Like his growth threatens their stagnation. He moved on, found something real, and that just exposes how shallow their version of “community” really is.
I glad someone else recognize this as weird. I agree that they felt they had a semblance of control over Hwayoung and assumed his relationship would dwindle and he would be crawling back, so when he proved them wrong they began to act out like children. Kink is a share experience but as you stated a healthy and respectful one too.
How do people feel about all of these people (Hwayoung's "friends" as well) feel so damn entitled to Hwayoung's sex life and his D/S relationship with Gyuwon? I am genuinely curious if anyone feels like I do or thinks differently and why.
As someone who into BDSM, it reads off weird that all of these adults are actively rooting for the crash/burn of Hwa and Gyu's relationship just cause he doesn't participate anymore and wants him to "share" his bf.
As far as I know the kink community isn't place where once you sign up you have to stay actively single or non-monogamous or it's a rule that dungeon's are a free for all no matter anyone's comfortability. Them talking about having a taste of Gyuwon was gross to me. No one should feel entitle to anyone's partner just cause they all like the same shit.
Also Sungjoon (for 3 fucking years mind you) pining after Gyuwon has got to be super pathetic at this point. Like bro--first it's Hwayoung, then his bf, hell even wanting to be a throuple. Why are all these Dom's written to be so damn desperate
Now I'm not saying I'm not enjoying Hwa/Gyu as a couple, if anything; they're fun to read about and I love a good ole big boy bottom and pretty boy top, but all the side character's honestly ruin my mood lol. No acts like real people...maybe that's why...