The ML deserves a hug

perfectly explained. his actions aren’t justified, but he deserves a chance to be redeemed and loved too. both the ml and fl have just had many instances of bad timing, complicated circumstances placed upon them, and their own trauma they have to face first. he literally was taken advantage of by his last living family member who manipulated him by using his dead brother to feed his doubts of the fl and fuel bad blood between them. it’s true he could’ve communicated more properly, but it’s hard when you already feel guilt about having feelings for someone who could’ve played a part in your family’s death and it’s hard to come to terms that your last remaining family member would take advantage of your guilt and emotions to betray you and use you as a front line in a family feud. most people would react the same way he did but everyone just says he’s useless and undeserving of lily when he’s already trying to make up for the harm he has done to her. many of us have done bad things or wronged people we’ve loved because we were consumed with grief and lack of trust. i’m not saying he needs to be liked, but most people just overlook the depth of his character and r honestly just reading this w their eyes closed. people always want complicated mcs until they get one. （￣へ￣）

The guy deserves happiness and peace but also our Fl need to be free of him.he can find himself a new wife or something and start therapy.

And she deserves to be far away from all those men who terrorised her for no reasons.

Don't forget that he knew the letter were likely to be fabricated.

So yeah he is pitiful but also leave her alone.

i agree she deserves to be happy and free from the men that terrorized her.

i’m not saying she’s not a victim, she most definitely is. the ml is also a victim, and only had a limited of people he could rely on and even those people (his aunt and the female antagonist) ended up being malicious and using him for their own selfish wants.

if you also had one last remaining family member, you would find it hard to cut them off because then, you’d really be the last one left over as seen by ch 71.

i personally think that i’d like to see them both be happy since they both suffered injustices and it’d be unfair to compare them. she deserves to get what she wants in the end and for him to be on his knees and apologize profusely, while he deserves to be able to be free of his guilt of being the last surviving family member and be at ease with her, the person he loves.

People saying their relationship is beyond repair . I don't think that is the case. This marriage was right person wrong time scenario. And I really want both of them to heal together and find the happiness they truly deserve. The ml has the capacity to give the love fl deserve and the fl completes male lead. They are perfect match for each other but the time they met was not right

Yeah but he had power a lot of it.

And he wasn't truly alone . He got his men his staff, his soldiers... Like yeah he didn't have any family perse. But he had all the power in the house.

But She was truly alone. She was powerless and had nobody until her maid started to help but even her was powerless.

Like it's not equal the guy used his frustration on her.

Just because you are surrounded by a lot of people, doesn’t mean that you cannot feel lonely and that you aren’t truly alone. He didn’t have anyone who truly knew him for who he was, and everyone who did died.

It’s true that he became frustrated at her while she didn’t, but that’s because from her perspective, he never did anything wrong to her, while from his perspective, he was under the impression that she played a part in her family’s schemes that killed her brother.

It’s unfair to say the ml can’t feel lonely just because he has power and his people. You can have all the golds and riches in the world and still be lonely. He thought she killed his brother, while she had no reason to have a grudge against him initially because he didn’t do anything to her, but she did hurt his brother (not true, but that’s what he thought). So it’s not fair to compare.

Yes that is what I think too. I think it’s important to understand both perspectives and to not be too hasty when we have yet to see the full redemption scenes.

I think you guys are giving way to much grace for his behaviour with her.

He said multiple time that he knew it was likely false he also just decided to let everyone bully her because he didn't care enough.


But I suppose people love to excuse everything when it come to men in those kind of story.

I believe he suffered but he also don't have a spine and will likely be useless once again if something happen again (and it did ! She got in a lot of trouble because elf his behaviour or lack off)

The FL is way stronger than him while she had nothing. (Unlike him)

we are not excusing him for his behavior, we just understand that not everyone is perfect. he’s not the greatest character and he’s most definitely flawed, which is what makes him interesting. if the roles were reversed, i would’ve most definitely felt the same way i do now. you don’t seem to understand that all the flaws you list is do to his upbringing and the fact that his brother is dead. i understand your arguments, but it’s also important to have empathy when it comes to all kinds of characters. everyone is entitled to their own opinion though.

I do understand his pain but you guys excuses him to much I think.

It's like giving him all these excuses and being "they both suffered" yeah they did but she wasn't the source of his suffering
He just passed on his abuse to someone else. There is not much excuse to being a piece of shit to your powerless wife.

It's like beating up someone already on the ground.

she wasn’t the source of his pain but he was manipulated by his aunt into believing she was. you seem to misunderstand how easy it is for people to be manipulated especially if it’s through a trusted family member. i’m not excusing his abuse, but if you believed someone played a part in killing your brother, you’d be mad too. it’s not as simple as “he’s suffering too so he should be excused” but rather he was being taken advantage of when he was grieving and was played like a puppet by his aunt.

Trauma and manipulation are not justification for abusing your wife. If you have the intelligence to tell right from wrong you know that abusing your wife or children is wrong.

Like "he murdered someone, but he was manipulated into believing he was avenging his family so it's not his fault." It is his fault, murder is wrong, abuse is wrong and your motive doesn't matter. He knew it was abuse when he was doing it.

Stories like this ignore how abuse works and that's fine because it is fiction. But once someone has abused you they become a source of trauma. Their presence in your life causes you to remember and relive the emotions of the traumatic experience as if it was still happening. Your brain freezes a snapshot of the trauma as it was happening that will stay with you. Trauma causes chemical changes to your brain and personality.

So if they're continuing to write "realistically" no they can't be happy together. The damage she says he has done to her "heart" in this chapter is real and long-term. He can still imagine a future with them together because she didn't abuse him.

well i never said it wasn’t wrong for him to abuse her lol. and rather than abuse it was more like neglect and ignorance.

you believe that everything should be realistic but the most realistic part is his flaws and the fact that people can do better after making mistakes and that people are able to redeem themselves. you’re just a pessimist tbh.

just cause you hurt people doesn’t mean you can’t do better or heal the cuts you’ve made. if you truly believe that it is not realistic for people to change and do better and be happy after hardships then i honestly i feel sorry for you because it sounds like you don’t have anyone in real life that has ever apologized to you genuinely and showed actual change after hurting you.

i’m lucky enough that my friends can take accountability for hurting me and that they actually take the steps to make it up to me and not do it again. i understand that my friends aren’t perfect and they can be distant sometimes and say a few ignorant words, but that doesn’t mean i excuse it. i’m just mature enough to understand that my friends are human and that we all had different upbringings and cultures and if our wavelength is not on the same page, then that’s just something you have to work on. obviously if someone hits me or spread rumors about me, i ain’t gonna stay being friends with them but yk even long term hurt can be healed little by little if someone is truly dedicated to it.

this is the last time i’ll be speaking on this topic because honestly at this point i just feel bad for you…. i hope that the people who have hurt you would apologize and do better next time and that you can one day free yourself of the grudges that are keeping you caged in your heart </3 truly the greatest thing is not just pure love, but love with depth and understanding that not everyone is perfect. （￣へ￣）

You are way to condescending, maybe you feel superior but it doesn't make you right.

And he said it : he knew she wasn't the author of those letters. Like not for certain but he isn't stupid. The whole story is him feeling sorry for himself on his throne.