That's your opinion, I respect it. I don't think so. It's not like he told him to wait for him, or to not make his life with someone else.
Oh it's cool, though I didn't elaborate on nii-san's selfishness but it's not about that. Touma accepted and knew he couldn't love anyone else and nii-san knew that and did took his love for granted (I think it was around chap 4). Actually I was mildly irked why it has to take 8 years but yeah that's up for the mangaka to deide and all (at least they got a happy ending).
He didn't want to be apart with his brother and for him to be in a couple with someone means that one day it will end. During these 8 years, Touma has endure well the situation and in no way show to Tetsu that it made him suffer. That's why I'm not too resentful of him.
I'd have found him selfish if Touma was with someone else and Tetsu shows signs of jealousy towards him. Yes, he took his love for granted but his brotherly love. Not being with him means that he'll always have his brother love but as a lover it could disappear. That how I understood it.
But that IS being selfish.....the fact that he knew Touma is in love with him but he still goes to Touma to be pampered when he was dumped, admittedly taking Touma's "brotherly" love for granted...that in a whole is an act of selfish-ness in Tetsu part. Even rejecting Touma's confession at first is partly due to Tetsu's selfishness where he doesn't want to be apart from Touma due to the fact that he believed once they become lovers they would break up one day.
We have a different definition of the word selfish. If my best friend confesses to me , and I answer him no. Because I prefer to have him as friend, it's easier.we can either continue to be friends if he supports it. So it means he will see me with other people. Or else he tells me no, sorry, we can no longer be friends.
To be selfish for me is I don't want to be with you, and I don't want you to have someone other than me. I will live my life but don't live yours.
Here, they just continued to be brothers. And yes, when we are dumped, we cry in the arms of our brother, sister, best friend ... Love in a family is supposed to be guaranteed, at least in my home. Tuma continued to live his life, he had a girlfriend in the meantime. He never made Tetsu understand that it was not easy for him to witness or confort him. That is why Tetsu did not apologize and Touma did not resent him.
To close the subject, let us agree to disagree.
Tetsu himself said he's selfish and he knows his brother loves him and will never leave him unlike his lovers. In fact he has the good part like I don't mind being dumped since my beloved brother will always be here for me.
If he wasn't selfish he would free his brother but he chained him instead of putting some distance and Toyama accepted his selfishness because of his parents who accepted in the family like he knows he's indebted.
I disagree . If you say that he accepted it, it is because he loved him and not because of his parents.It is not the idea that come out of my reading
Uke's really selfish.....8 years......sigh