In my opinion I think we just expect what happens in books we read to happen to us. You might find spark but not like how we see in what we read you know what I mean. At least when your alone you don’t have to hide what you read watch or fantasize about (づ￣ ³￣)づ
well, u're still young so u really can't decide that much at first. and maybe, u haven't found someone that could catch ur attention. nevertheless, it's still early to tell. u might also explore things tk know what u really want tho
It's great that you have self awareness. I was just mindlessly existing at that age lol. You are still young, your environment is a factor too. Just don't be impulsive and always be careful. Most of idiotic decision happen at 20s. Love sometimes comes when you least expect it, and it's much harder to find if you are in LGBTQ+. So don't worry about it too much..with this global economic crisis its true that you should get a job at 21...my advice is to explore more and fail more...focus on yourself and happiness. Steel yourself until independent...and then think about this again when you hit 30s....then again at 40s...50s..60s...untill we all age and die from natural cause
Buddy, I'm over a decade your senior and my advice is don't force anything. Focus on yourself. Go chase your dreams. Climb that career ladder if you're the ambitious money-driven type like me. Or just enjoy your job as much as they're willing to pay you. Recall your childhood wishes and allocate some time and effort to fulfill those, no matter how silly or childish they are. Get the money to spoil yourself. Enjoy life. Splurge on some occasional luxuries whenever you can (me personally I enjoy my monthly spa visits so look for one thing that you will enjoy). Allocate time for your hobbies. Spend time with friends@family@pets@pixel paramours (I don't judge my friend of the same age is obsessed with LADS lmaooo). If you can, keep a small amount of money aside once you're done paying your bills and let that money pile up untouched until it's enough for you to travel to your dream destination. In this economy, that might sound like an impossible dream, but that is a goal and a plan for you to reward yourself in the future, so it's not exactly a waste. Don't hunt for love just because you feel you need to have a partner to be happy, because then you will lose sight of the joy you could have enjoyed.
Explore the dating scene at your own pace but don't force your feelings if you don't feel THE spark. I personally believe in universe's divine timing. Love will come when you're ready, and hey, even if it doesn't come after years have passed, at least you're not wasting your time hunting for it while neglecting yourself. Enjoy your life to the best of your capability.
Don't expect your romance story to happen like in manhwa tho. These are fictions for a god damn reason
As a fellow 21 year old student, I hear you! I’ve never been in a relationship before and i’m kind of tired of vicariously living through manwhas tbh But like the others said, just take it slow and focus on yourself and your time will come x
Being in a relationship definitely isn’t a measure of happiness or success. I know a lot of people who are married with kids and are miserable so, sometimes being single is the play. Many people choose to stay single (even in their 30s and older) and are living their best lives! You get the freedom to travel, switch careers, have hobbies, save money, spend money, or take your life in any direction you want. Plus, your 20’s are like the age of self-discovery. Once you develop your interests and figure out the kind of person you want to be, you’ll click with other likeminded people. :)
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Damn fictionsss （￣へ￣）
Yes . thank youuu (●'◡'●)ﾉ
I wish to just exist too.but all the pressures. Academic and familial is just draining me alottt ╥﹏╥
I was looking for somone older to talk abt it. But these ppl around me weren’t just helping...but really THANK YOU SO MUCH.. HOPE YOU LIVE UPTO YOUR EXPECTATIONS..... I'll ss your entire comment and use it as my wallpaper(●￣(ｴ)￣●)
Thank youuuu too < 3
Miserable like my parents and relatives (︶︿︶)＝凸
Guys. Off topic but gimme some real advice.I'm almost 21.an english student.
The thing is i DON'T really believe that I'm gonna find love or anything like the connection between someone and me. I didn’t date or had a relationship with anyone until now.there were people who told me that they like me. But i didn’t really find a spark from the thought.sooo I'm planning on getting a job of some kind and planning on being alone maybe in the future. . What do ya'll think?. Do i have problem with myself or other things. Pleasseee gimme some advice on what should i do regarding this matter.